Littledragon
03-15-2012, 02:29 PM
So, I posted something this morning about what to do if a child has no schedule at home but has to follow a strict schedule here.
He came over today for a little visit. Since he's never been babysat before, I decided it would be in both of our best interests if he came over for a few afternoons before he started, just to get used to me, my son and my house. He was supposed to come for 10 and leave at 2.
So, he came at ten and everything we fine for about...10 minutes. Then the crying started. His crying actually startled me in the beginning. My son is VERY quiet, he never screams and his cry is more silent, he's one of those holld-your-breath-type kids. Anyways, this kid (God forgive me) sounds like a cat in heat. No joke. He's SO loud. Within about 30 minutes, I had him asleep. I rocked him a bit and sang. My priority was to make him feel safe so he would feel safe coming here everyday.
He slept for an hour. I was so happy.
But then he woke up. He woke up at 12. He screamed, at the top of his lungs for a full hour. I had to call his mom to pick him up early because I couldn't tend to my own child. I managed to feed them both, but the kid just wouldn't stop! Nothing I did worked!
He's coming two more times next week, only for two hours though. But now I'm nervous! What if he's like that when he starts full time? Should I send my son away for the other little boy's first day in case he flips out again (my son was crying only because the other boy was scaring him). How can I make the transition easier on him? What can I do to avoid him crying like that? I don't want this to be a traumatic experience for him but I'm starting to feel like maybe I can't avoid that.
PLEASE tell me!! What do I do!? He's my first client, I can't let him go, and I don't want to let him go.
I even tried putting him in the playpen so he was secluded, but he just screamed. One thing I did notice though, that I saw as a good sign, was when I left the room he tried to follow me. Although he was crying as he was doing it, he was coming to me. And when I would pick him up, he would cuddle up, but he would continue crying.
HELP!!
He came over today for a little visit. Since he's never been babysat before, I decided it would be in both of our best interests if he came over for a few afternoons before he started, just to get used to me, my son and my house. He was supposed to come for 10 and leave at 2.
So, he came at ten and everything we fine for about...10 minutes. Then the crying started. His crying actually startled me in the beginning. My son is VERY quiet, he never screams and his cry is more silent, he's one of those holld-your-breath-type kids. Anyways, this kid (God forgive me) sounds like a cat in heat. No joke. He's SO loud. Within about 30 minutes, I had him asleep. I rocked him a bit and sang. My priority was to make him feel safe so he would feel safe coming here everyday.
He slept for an hour. I was so happy.
But then he woke up. He woke up at 12. He screamed, at the top of his lungs for a full hour. I had to call his mom to pick him up early because I couldn't tend to my own child. I managed to feed them both, but the kid just wouldn't stop! Nothing I did worked!
He's coming two more times next week, only for two hours though. But now I'm nervous! What if he's like that when he starts full time? Should I send my son away for the other little boy's first day in case he flips out again (my son was crying only because the other boy was scaring him). How can I make the transition easier on him? What can I do to avoid him crying like that? I don't want this to be a traumatic experience for him but I'm starting to feel like maybe I can't avoid that.
PLEASE tell me!! What do I do!? He's my first client, I can't let him go, and I don't want to let him go.
I even tried putting him in the playpen so he was secluded, but he just screamed. One thing I did notice though, that I saw as a good sign, was when I left the room he tried to follow me. Although he was crying as he was doing it, he was coming to me. And when I would pick him up, he would cuddle up, but he would continue crying.
HELP!!