Dayhome Mamma
03-22-2012, 05:09 PM
So I've started caring for an 11 mth old this month, full time. We did play dates twice a week with his mom here prior whom I love having as a client. He is comfortable with me and in coming here. Never has objected at the door except for a second today. But he has what seems to be an anger disposition. Not in his actions but in his tone of crying. Keep in mind he is 11 mths.
So he screams when he wants attention. Loudly and with anger. If we're feeding him and he's finished his food, he screams. When he goes to bed, he screams (his mom said the usual is 20-30min). And just randomly as he plays he makes these loud shrieking sounds. So would you say this is something I should be concerned about? Or is it just him learning about his tone of voice as he can't speak so he's testing his loudness?
He's been coming here for two weeks. And Like I said I just love his mom and would love to continue working with them as a family as I do really like him as well. It felt like we naturally bonded from the start....its just the shrieking that is bothersome, not only to me, but also to the children. Its just really distracting and I know they all don't like it as the older ones 2 and 3, keep on screaming "stop screaming!" So its aggravating them, and making them angry themselves hearing it.
In my mind these are the options; What do you think I should do?
1. I tell his mom right away this week/ weekend that although his transitioning has been going pretty smooth and he seems comfortable coming here and we love him, that we have noticed that he does have a bit of a temper and are concerned about his screaming and having it go on for a prolonged period of time. This would be something that we would both have to work on eliminating as it is affecting the other children's quality of sleep and stay within the dayhome.
2. I wait till the end of the month and say the same thing as above and that I'd like to give it another month so we can work on it but if it doesn't improve by then then unfortunately I won't be able to continue the care for him?
3. I don't say anything and try to teach him out of this behavior in the ways that I have read on here (ie, bad behavior gets no attention, I place him in the playpen and let him scream there until he learns? shower him with lots of positive reinforcement when he stops screaming?) and hope that his angry screaming has been because of his teething? (I did forget to mention that he is getting 8 teeth trying to poke their way through right now, all at the same time. Its just that I don't really think its the teething, though I'm trying to tell myself and hope that it is. I think it could really be his personality. He is sweet but also has a bossy demeanor. Like if you don't do what he wants or needs, he gets very angry and loud)
So what do you think? what would you do in general with this scenario and how would you tame a little guys anger? It just seems like he's way to young to have so much anger in him? Any feedback would be appreciated!
So he screams when he wants attention. Loudly and with anger. If we're feeding him and he's finished his food, he screams. When he goes to bed, he screams (his mom said the usual is 20-30min). And just randomly as he plays he makes these loud shrieking sounds. So would you say this is something I should be concerned about? Or is it just him learning about his tone of voice as he can't speak so he's testing his loudness?
He's been coming here for two weeks. And Like I said I just love his mom and would love to continue working with them as a family as I do really like him as well. It felt like we naturally bonded from the start....its just the shrieking that is bothersome, not only to me, but also to the children. Its just really distracting and I know they all don't like it as the older ones 2 and 3, keep on screaming "stop screaming!" So its aggravating them, and making them angry themselves hearing it.
In my mind these are the options; What do you think I should do?
1. I tell his mom right away this week/ weekend that although his transitioning has been going pretty smooth and he seems comfortable coming here and we love him, that we have noticed that he does have a bit of a temper and are concerned about his screaming and having it go on for a prolonged period of time. This would be something that we would both have to work on eliminating as it is affecting the other children's quality of sleep and stay within the dayhome.
2. I wait till the end of the month and say the same thing as above and that I'd like to give it another month so we can work on it but if it doesn't improve by then then unfortunately I won't be able to continue the care for him?
3. I don't say anything and try to teach him out of this behavior in the ways that I have read on here (ie, bad behavior gets no attention, I place him in the playpen and let him scream there until he learns? shower him with lots of positive reinforcement when he stops screaming?) and hope that his angry screaming has been because of his teething? (I did forget to mention that he is getting 8 teeth trying to poke their way through right now, all at the same time. Its just that I don't really think its the teething, though I'm trying to tell myself and hope that it is. I think it could really be his personality. He is sweet but also has a bossy demeanor. Like if you don't do what he wants or needs, he gets very angry and loud)
So what do you think? what would you do in general with this scenario and how would you tame a little guys anger? It just seems like he's way to young to have so much anger in him? Any feedback would be appreciated!