Toregone
06-08-2012, 02:40 PM
Has anyone here cared for family members children? I mean your nieces nephews etc. Has it been a positive thing or has to caused possible strain with your family?
My brother in law has recently split up with him wife and he has temporarily moved into my basement bedroom. This is fine as he works all day and is not around when children are in care, it's a good arrangement. I discussed it with my parents and let them know, no one had a problem with it. He and his ex are having some trouble firming up custody arrangements of thier 10 month old son. This is where my dayhome becomes affected.
I was asked if I could watch my nephew part time for any weekdays that my BIL has him, of course I was fine with this. I let him know that as this is my business I couldn't do it for free and he agreed to pay normal part time fees (which is more than I was going to charge, but that's what he feels is fair). As I have a child leaving as of June 15th this was going to work out perfectly. However, since he and his ex haven't set anything up as far as custody goes my nephew has yet to start and there is no tentative start date set. I have tried to discuss this with him but I don't think he understands that I am not asking as a concerned SIL but as a business owner who needs to know.
The child I have leaving was on extended hours so myself and his mother worked out an arrangement so that she paid me $200 over and above my regular monthly full time fees. Having him leave is going to lower my income by close to $900 per month. I was fine taking a hit in income and watching my nephew for only part time fees (450 per month), but if I can't even gaurentee that I am going to need to start advertising and fill the spot. I simpily can not be without some income for this spot.
Any suggestions as to how to proceed with this? As it's family it can be rather touchy and I don't want to make waves for him, he's having a hard enough time as it is.
Also just in general in watching family, can different disipline methods etc prove to be an issue? Has anyone had a problem? I'm thinking it would work out ok for us but am curious about other peoples experiances.
Thank you. Sorry for the long post. It was a bit of a rant, since I've been frustrated and can't even talk to hubby since it's his little brother haha.
My brother in law has recently split up with him wife and he has temporarily moved into my basement bedroom. This is fine as he works all day and is not around when children are in care, it's a good arrangement. I discussed it with my parents and let them know, no one had a problem with it. He and his ex are having some trouble firming up custody arrangements of thier 10 month old son. This is where my dayhome becomes affected.
I was asked if I could watch my nephew part time for any weekdays that my BIL has him, of course I was fine with this. I let him know that as this is my business I couldn't do it for free and he agreed to pay normal part time fees (which is more than I was going to charge, but that's what he feels is fair). As I have a child leaving as of June 15th this was going to work out perfectly. However, since he and his ex haven't set anything up as far as custody goes my nephew has yet to start and there is no tentative start date set. I have tried to discuss this with him but I don't think he understands that I am not asking as a concerned SIL but as a business owner who needs to know.
The child I have leaving was on extended hours so myself and his mother worked out an arrangement so that she paid me $200 over and above my regular monthly full time fees. Having him leave is going to lower my income by close to $900 per month. I was fine taking a hit in income and watching my nephew for only part time fees (450 per month), but if I can't even gaurentee that I am going to need to start advertising and fill the spot. I simpily can not be without some income for this spot.
Any suggestions as to how to proceed with this? As it's family it can be rather touchy and I don't want to make waves for him, he's having a hard enough time as it is.
Also just in general in watching family, can different disipline methods etc prove to be an issue? Has anyone had a problem? I'm thinking it would work out ok for us but am curious about other peoples experiances.
Thank you. Sorry for the long post. It was a bit of a rant, since I've been frustrated and can't even talk to hubby since it's his little brother haha.