Sandbox Sally
07-12-2012, 12:00 PM
Anyone seen this, either as a DCProvider or as a parent?
I have two school aged kids for the summer. They are only 12 months apart in age, and the girl is the older of the two. The boy is very behaviourally challenged (I have to drag him from things, he screams "NO" at me). The other day, he hit me in the face during the course of my physically removing him from other kids.
When I told his parents about the incident, BOTH of them asked if their daughter was involved. The daughter did verbally disagree with him about something which led to his outburst (whereupon he hit her several times), but this had nothing to do with him veering out of control and hitting ME, in my opinion. After I told mom the whole story from start to finish, she said something along the lines of, "Ohh! That explains it. Daughter started it. She's usually the reason for his hitting." Um....NO. She's NOT the reason for his hitting. HE is the reason for his hitting. Always, every time. I want to mention at this time that her daughter is a GREAT kid with a big heart.
I am not happy with mom's reaction. Not only does this let dcb off the hook for his terrible behaviour, but she is blaming her other child for her son's inability to control his temper. I went on to explain that I didn't care WHAT someone does to her son, he is never to put his hands on somebody in anger. She didn't seem to get my point.
I wonder how often the daughter gets the blame at home. I was so sad for her. :(
I have two school aged kids for the summer. They are only 12 months apart in age, and the girl is the older of the two. The boy is very behaviourally challenged (I have to drag him from things, he screams "NO" at me). The other day, he hit me in the face during the course of my physically removing him from other kids.
When I told his parents about the incident, BOTH of them asked if their daughter was involved. The daughter did verbally disagree with him about something which led to his outburst (whereupon he hit her several times), but this had nothing to do with him veering out of control and hitting ME, in my opinion. After I told mom the whole story from start to finish, she said something along the lines of, "Ohh! That explains it. Daughter started it. She's usually the reason for his hitting." Um....NO. She's NOT the reason for his hitting. HE is the reason for his hitting. Always, every time. I want to mention at this time that her daughter is a GREAT kid with a big heart.
I am not happy with mom's reaction. Not only does this let dcb off the hook for his terrible behaviour, but she is blaming her other child for her son's inability to control his temper. I went on to explain that I didn't care WHAT someone does to her son, he is never to put his hands on somebody in anger. She didn't seem to get my point.
I wonder how often the daughter gets the blame at home. I was so sad for her. :(