UPDATE on "Should I be concern about this email?"

[Cocoon]

Hello everyone,

Here is an update from me. Dcm said she was panicked but that's ok they will find someone to cover me. The following week (this week) her husband comes to pick their son and tells me that they have a close friend who "just" moved to the area which is closer to them( they live walking distance to me and their friend has moved to an area which is 5-10mins drive away from us. Dont know how it is closer to them but anyway ) and she is a single mother who decided to open her day home and they want to help her. Basically, they gave 2 weeks notice and they are leaving. I'm not sad or upset at all! In fact, I'm happy that they are leaving. I wanted to let them go but my husband said their reaction was understandable which I kind a agree but that doesn't mean you should be an idiot and send me a rude( I consider) email. Anyway, God has mysterious way of doing things.

Lucky, I have received two emails looking for care. It has been a month at least since someone emailed regarding care but strangely, as soon as they gave notice I have received two interest.

Now, here is my dilemma, I have been offered a manager job outside home and I'm thinking seriously. The pay is good and the company will give a car and they will be paying gas. And they want me to start as soon as I can. My brother in law offered me the job. My husband thinks it will spoil our relationship as two family member working for the same company wont work. The thing is he is in Vancouver and I will be in Calgary. I actually really want this job as I'm new to this country and it is difficult to get into system if you are new. And my qualifications are from overseas. I think this is a great opportunity for me.

What do you guys think of this? Do you think if I and brother in law work in same company will spoil our relationship? Just a note, me and my bro. in law getting along very well and I heard from other family members that he has been telling everyone how much he likes me and he wish he had a daughter like me.

Thanks.

Sorry for the long post. This is actually the first time I'm writing this long :)

[Bookworm]

Well, honestly, it seems you have already kinda made up your mind.... you seem to really want the job.
Will your brother in law and you be working together, or just for the same company? If you both can keep business seperate from family, I don't see why it can't work.
As for the daycare families you have now, how much notice do you need to give them? Will the job you want be willing to wait until you fulfill your contractual obligations to your daycare families?

Good luck with what ever you decide to do.

[Momof4]

Wow, congratulations on being in such high demand! :) Can you and your husband handle a long distance relationship? It's a really long drive from Calgary to Vancouver. A long time ago I was unhappy in my job and a good friend told me that I should sit down and really think about what I need to make me happy. So I left that job and it's the very best thing that ever happened to me because I was completely miserable there. I love running a daycare and being self-employed, but I worked outside the home for decades. So you are considering doing the opposite. Use your instincts.

[Cocoon]

Me and my bro. in law will be working for the same company but in different cities. He is in Vancouver and I'm in Calgary. He is a regional manager and need managers for his company and offered me the job.

Momof4, I won't be moving anywhere the job is in here where I live. To be honest, I wouldn't go anywhere leaving my husband behind. He is my best best bestest friend :)

[jazmic]

If you were working in the same building, I could see where there MIGHT be an issue, but as it is, he's in a different province completely so I think it should be fine. It also sounds like you really want it so I say go for it! :)

[Momof4]

Me and my bro. in law will be working for the same company but in different cities. He is in Vancouver and I'm in Calgary. He is a regional manager and need managers for his company and offered me the job.

Momof4, I won't be moving anywhere the job is in here where I live. To be honest, I wouldn't go anywhere leaving my husband behind. He is my best best bestest friend :)

Ooooooh, I thought you meant your husband was in Vancouver, oops!

[Cocoon]

Yes that is my argument. I will not be seeing him. I want to do it as i want a change. And to tell you the truth i started disliking dealing with parents. Turnover in this business is too much. I'm only open for 10 months and I have already lost 1 customer due to changing location. 1 I didn't wanted to offer extra day another one I let them go as they will be too much work. Another one apparently wanted only temp. Care until her friend moved near to them so that their friend will look after their kid but of course they didn't tell me this. I think in 10 months it is too much.
I can not get a mortgage cause I don't have stable income unless I take 5 plus kids( which i cant due to the limited space) so if anyone wants to leave I can relay on the other 3-4.

Although, If I close my day home I will re open again after I have my own child. But now I think I wanna fly :))))

[Cocoon]

Jazmic, I'm already convinced that I want the job :) I'm trying to convince my husband. He can be a tough cookie :))))

Momof4, how was the trip? Wait don't say it was fab. huh :)

[Spixie33]

Go for the job sweetie! It sounds like you really want it and it would be a good opportunity for you. It seems like you need to build your resume and this would give you the chance to add some Canadian experience to your resume. That is important long term unless you want to do daycare forever.

Go for it. YOu can always start the daycare back up if you change your mind but it might be a good opportunity for you to take the job.

I doubt you will be in contact much with your Brother in law if he works in another city. The only way it could go sour is if you perform poorly and he gets in trouble for recommending/hiring you. I doubt that you will do a bad job so take the chance and do it.

I think it is scary to leave what we know and take a chance on something new but you don't want to regret not doing it a year from now. Good luck with what you decide.:):)

[Cocoon]

Spixie33, you are %100 right. It is in my nature, I can't live with what ifs. And as you said if I change my mind I can always reopen my day home. I studied ecomonics and IT and I haven't worked in an office for 10 years. This will be a great opportunity for me. Especially, I don't have Canadian experience and my first job will be a managerial job which is fab! :)

Thank you girls.

[Momof4]

Jazmic, I'm already convinced that I want the job :) I'm trying to convince my husband. He can be a tough cookie :))))

Momof4, how was the trip? Wait don't say it was fab. huh :)


Thanks for asking Cocoon! I was in Ireland, not England so no, my trip wasn't 'fab' it was 'on the hammer'! Haha! Ireland is gorgeous and I had a fantastic time and would recommend it to anyone as a vacation. Now I have to develop my 200 or so pictures.

[dodge__driver11]

oh mom of 4 I'd love to see those!! and Good luck Jazmic!!

[Cocoon]

I know Momof4, you went to Ireland and I heard Ireland is beautiful. And dont worry, you didint miss anything by not seeing England. :) unless you are into old buildings :)))

[Momof4]

I've been to England before and to lots of other European countries. Now I have a long list of more to see on my bucket list and I'm going back next year with my Mom & my sister to see more of Europe.

Did you make any progress with your husband today Cocoon? How's it going with the job decision? Did your BIL give you a deadline or could you for instance take the job next year?

[Cocoon]

I love Europe but not fond of England:) I think if you go there once that would be enough.

I didn't talk to him about it yesterday but did said " I quite like the idea of starting as a manager:) " he didn't say anything but smiled. The thing is I can accept the position and he would have no objection and he would support me but I want him to convince that this would not spoil my relationship with his brother:) at lunch he called me to find out how I am and told me that if I really want to work outside then he will spread the word and find me a job. He wants me to work in a oil and gas company or health care.

When he offered me the position he said" say yes and start tomorrow" so I assume I can start right away. But if I tell him I want to start in new year I'm sure he can arrange that.

[playfelt]

In many jobs it is all about who you know and not just earning the position on merits. There is certainly something to be said for not having to fight and compete for a job. The only way it could cause a problem with the relationship I would think is if you took the job and then slacked off and did a poor job at work in the sense that the brother in law is going out on a limb and saying ok you should hire this person and it will look bad on him if you then didn't live up to what he told them you could do. It sounds like your hubby is on board but trying to stay neutral in a way so that it is you that makes up your mind which job you want to do - out of the home or daycare. If you are going to take the job I wouldn't put off your start too far as they will be needing someone now to do the job and it will also look like you aren't committed if you want to stay in daycare for a few more months. The nice thing about daycare is that even if you close your daycare and then decide down the road that that is what you really wish you were still doing it is possible to reopen. I have seen a few ads put that way that the person posts just couldn't stay away and have decided to reopen. At the same time if you don't take the job you will always wonder what if.