BlueRose
11-01-2012, 09:44 AM
I have a 3year old dcg who's parents say she is potty trained, all I have to do is asked her every hour if she needs to go (I have written about her before). Her parents are now sending 1 to 2 pull-ups per day. The problem is she still is not only not telling me she has to go but also telling me that she doesn't have to go when I ask her.
I change all diapers and TELL every child that they have to go before we go out, before and After nap, before afternoon snack and about 30 to 60 minutes before they are to be picked up. I also change diapers if I notice they need it.
I have looked at the girl and have known she has to go. So I get down to here level and ask her if there is something she would like to ask me. She will nod her head yes. So I wait, then tell her its okay to ask. Still nothing, so I tell her to go the the bathroom. Even with all the times she does go she has still had accidents in her pull-ups.
I have rewritten my toilet training policy.
(there was a thread a while back where people shared their policies, some said we could copy, others asked for their policy to be rewritten. (I can not find the thread now) I have used these as well as add my own info. (if I have not rewritten enough, please let me know so I can fix it.) Will add a copy of my policy to the bottom of this thread.
I gave the mom the new policy yesterday at pick up, told her that her and her husband need to read and sign it. Today at drop off, the father didn't have the policy or mention it. I didn't say anything as I know he had to get to work, and I was not fully awake.
What I want to do is: if the girl doesn't start asking to use the potty to have her either put into diapers and I will changer her like I change all the others in diapers or to be given more pull ups and treat her like she is in a diaper but she can still use the potty if she likes. (I will not pay for her pull-ups or diapers) Is there any treat that I can us to have her tell me when she has to go. She asks me for water and if she can play with a toy, so I don't understand why she can't ask to use the potty. Her parents say she is shy, and at first yes, but she is no longer shy here.
I would love any and all advice
(I am not fully awake yet, so I hope this thread make sense)
Toilet Training Policy
So, you want to start toilet training at daycare.
We need to work as a team to insure your child's success. Communication between us on your child's readiness is key to a happy successful training.
The signs of readiness to toilet train at home are often different than in a group setting. In a group the child face challenges that can delay their readiness; such as: fear of missing out on something. This can cause a child to wait until the last second.
Step 1: Is your child really ready?
Does your child communicate a need to go to the bathroom to other adults?
YES _____ NO_____
Can your child use a potty unassisted? (can get on and off the potty by him/herself, can dress and undress him/herself)
YES_____ NO_____
As a caregiver I am watching more then one child at a time. I can not always assist a child at the potty.
Does your child stay dry for at least two hours at a time?
YES _____ NO_____
Does your child show interest in going to the bathroom? (does he/she follow you into the bathroom and want to sit on the potty.)
YES _____ NO_____
Does your child understand what the toilet is for? ( does he/she ask to be changed when wet or dirty?)
YES _____ NO_____
Does your child have regular bowel movements with soft, formed stools?
YES _____ NO_____
Does your child seem to recognize at least a few seconds ahead of time that he/she has to go, and can tell you before it happens?
YES _____ NO_____
Is your child in a willing receptive mood? (If your child is going through or about to go through within the next 3 months a major transition, such as: a new baby arriving/ has arrived, starting school, moving, etc. These and other major transition can delay or degrees training)
YES___ NO_____
- If your child is going through or about to go through within the next 3 months a major transition, such as: a new baby arriving/ has arrived, starting school, moving, etc. These and other major transition can delay or degrees training.
Does your child show a desire to be independent?
YES _____ NO_____
If your child meets at least 7 of these criteria then your child is ready to try training.
If there are any major transitions in your child's life now or with in the next 3 months I would wait until your child can adjust.
Some fully trained children have been know to degrees back into diaper when under stress.
If your child meets 6 or less of these criteria, wait a month or two and re-evaluate.
Please keep in mind that every child develops at their own rate. Please don't push "your readiness" on your child, it can do more harm then good.
Step 2: Let your Caregiver now.
Please make sure that you let me know when you are going to start toilet training at home.
Also please keep me up to date on the progress.
Step 3: Starting Training
Toilet training should be done at home over a long weekend or holiday.
Once your child has been trained successfully at home for at lest 4 weeks, your child may begin wearing training pants with rubber pants to cover them or a pull-up here at daycare.
Please keep in mind that with caring for 5 young children I will more often then not have time to be rinsing out soiled training pants. There fore all solid training pants and clothes will be contained in a plastic bag to be taken home each evening by parents.
Please send your child in clothing that is comfortable and easy for your child to remove independently. (No overalls, tights/leggings or multiple buttons etc.)
You must provide me with:
1. At lest 2 complete changes of your child's clothing (this includes socks)
2. One extra pair of shoes
Under NO circumstances will your child be allowed to potty-train in regular underwear.
This is for sanitary reasons. regular underwear can not contain urine and feces to prevent the spread of gems in my home, to other children in my care, and to my family and pets. Please cooperate with me on this matter.
If within 2 to 3 weeks, your child shows no signs of progress, I reserve the right to put your child back in diapers and try again at a later date.
Step 4: Wearing underwear to daycare
I use a sticker chart to keep track of your child's progress here in care. In order for your child to be aloud to wear underwear to daycare he/she must get 20 consecutive stickers on his/her chart (equaling 20 consecutive daycare days). In order to get a stick on his/she chart, he/she must complete the following each day. If he/she does not do one of the two of the following then he/she gets an X for that day.
1. Asks to use the toilet
2. Leaves in the same dry pull-up/training pants he/she came in
If at any time after your child has been fully trained at daycare and he/she has an accident, I reserve the right to start the training process here at care all over again.
Once I have given your child permission to wear his/her underwear to daycare you must provide me with :
Pull-ups for naps or other extended periods until I say otherwise.
Important Note:
What happens if you don't follow my toilet training rules
If you send your child to care in his/her underwear without my permission, you will be called to either pick up your child or to drop off the proper training products.
You will also be 100% responsible for all replacement costs of the following, but not limited to the following:
Furniture
Flooring (carpets, mats, rugs etc.)
Toys
Any and all other items that come in contact with the urine or feces, if your child has an accident well in my care.
The replacement cost must be paid in a reasonable amount of time. A payment payment plan can be discussed with me and my husband.
Acknowledgement of Policies
I, ____________________ _____ and ____________________ _____ have read and understand all the Toilet Training Policy for Valerie's Home Daycare run by Valerie E. M-------
We agree to abide by all policies stated in the Agreement. We understand that we will be notified in writing of any changes in these policies.
We also understand that any breach of policies may be grounds to terminate childcare. A two-week notice will be given in such circumstance unless the infraction is severe enough to warrant termination without notice. We also understand that any breach of the polices that causes damage to any of the above mentioned, but not limited to the above mentioned will result in having to pay 100% of the replacement cost of whatever has touched my child's urine and/or feces.
This arrangement will come into effect on ____________________ _______
Parent Signature ____________________ ______________
Parent Signature ____________________ ______________
Caregiver Signature ____________________ ____________
Today's Date ____________________ _________________
I am I going over board by having parents sign it??
I change all diapers and TELL every child that they have to go before we go out, before and After nap, before afternoon snack and about 30 to 60 minutes before they are to be picked up. I also change diapers if I notice they need it.
I have looked at the girl and have known she has to go. So I get down to here level and ask her if there is something she would like to ask me. She will nod her head yes. So I wait, then tell her its okay to ask. Still nothing, so I tell her to go the the bathroom. Even with all the times she does go she has still had accidents in her pull-ups.
I have rewritten my toilet training policy.
(there was a thread a while back where people shared their policies, some said we could copy, others asked for their policy to be rewritten. (I can not find the thread now) I have used these as well as add my own info. (if I have not rewritten enough, please let me know so I can fix it.) Will add a copy of my policy to the bottom of this thread.
I gave the mom the new policy yesterday at pick up, told her that her and her husband need to read and sign it. Today at drop off, the father didn't have the policy or mention it. I didn't say anything as I know he had to get to work, and I was not fully awake.
What I want to do is: if the girl doesn't start asking to use the potty to have her either put into diapers and I will changer her like I change all the others in diapers or to be given more pull ups and treat her like she is in a diaper but she can still use the potty if she likes. (I will not pay for her pull-ups or diapers) Is there any treat that I can us to have her tell me when she has to go. She asks me for water and if she can play with a toy, so I don't understand why she can't ask to use the potty. Her parents say she is shy, and at first yes, but she is no longer shy here.
I would love any and all advice
(I am not fully awake yet, so I hope this thread make sense)
Toilet Training Policy
So, you want to start toilet training at daycare.
We need to work as a team to insure your child's success. Communication between us on your child's readiness is key to a happy successful training.
The signs of readiness to toilet train at home are often different than in a group setting. In a group the child face challenges that can delay their readiness; such as: fear of missing out on something. This can cause a child to wait until the last second.
Step 1: Is your child really ready?
Does your child communicate a need to go to the bathroom to other adults?
YES _____ NO_____
Can your child use a potty unassisted? (can get on and off the potty by him/herself, can dress and undress him/herself)
YES_____ NO_____
As a caregiver I am watching more then one child at a time. I can not always assist a child at the potty.
Does your child stay dry for at least two hours at a time?
YES _____ NO_____
Does your child show interest in going to the bathroom? (does he/she follow you into the bathroom and want to sit on the potty.)
YES _____ NO_____
Does your child understand what the toilet is for? ( does he/she ask to be changed when wet or dirty?)
YES _____ NO_____
Does your child have regular bowel movements with soft, formed stools?
YES _____ NO_____
Does your child seem to recognize at least a few seconds ahead of time that he/she has to go, and can tell you before it happens?
YES _____ NO_____
Is your child in a willing receptive mood? (If your child is going through or about to go through within the next 3 months a major transition, such as: a new baby arriving/ has arrived, starting school, moving, etc. These and other major transition can delay or degrees training)
YES___ NO_____
- If your child is going through or about to go through within the next 3 months a major transition, such as: a new baby arriving/ has arrived, starting school, moving, etc. These and other major transition can delay or degrees training.
Does your child show a desire to be independent?
YES _____ NO_____
If your child meets at least 7 of these criteria then your child is ready to try training.
If there are any major transitions in your child's life now or with in the next 3 months I would wait until your child can adjust.
Some fully trained children have been know to degrees back into diaper when under stress.
If your child meets 6 or less of these criteria, wait a month or two and re-evaluate.
Please keep in mind that every child develops at their own rate. Please don't push "your readiness" on your child, it can do more harm then good.
Step 2: Let your Caregiver now.
Please make sure that you let me know when you are going to start toilet training at home.
Also please keep me up to date on the progress.
Step 3: Starting Training
Toilet training should be done at home over a long weekend or holiday.
Once your child has been trained successfully at home for at lest 4 weeks, your child may begin wearing training pants with rubber pants to cover them or a pull-up here at daycare.
Please keep in mind that with caring for 5 young children I will more often then not have time to be rinsing out soiled training pants. There fore all solid training pants and clothes will be contained in a plastic bag to be taken home each evening by parents.
Please send your child in clothing that is comfortable and easy for your child to remove independently. (No overalls, tights/leggings or multiple buttons etc.)
You must provide me with:
1. At lest 2 complete changes of your child's clothing (this includes socks)
2. One extra pair of shoes
Under NO circumstances will your child be allowed to potty-train in regular underwear.
This is for sanitary reasons. regular underwear can not contain urine and feces to prevent the spread of gems in my home, to other children in my care, and to my family and pets. Please cooperate with me on this matter.
If within 2 to 3 weeks, your child shows no signs of progress, I reserve the right to put your child back in diapers and try again at a later date.
Step 4: Wearing underwear to daycare
I use a sticker chart to keep track of your child's progress here in care. In order for your child to be aloud to wear underwear to daycare he/she must get 20 consecutive stickers on his/her chart (equaling 20 consecutive daycare days). In order to get a stick on his/she chart, he/she must complete the following each day. If he/she does not do one of the two of the following then he/she gets an X for that day.
1. Asks to use the toilet
2. Leaves in the same dry pull-up/training pants he/she came in
If at any time after your child has been fully trained at daycare and he/she has an accident, I reserve the right to start the training process here at care all over again.
Once I have given your child permission to wear his/her underwear to daycare you must provide me with :
Pull-ups for naps or other extended periods until I say otherwise.
Important Note:
What happens if you don't follow my toilet training rules
If you send your child to care in his/her underwear without my permission, you will be called to either pick up your child or to drop off the proper training products.
You will also be 100% responsible for all replacement costs of the following, but not limited to the following:
Furniture
Flooring (carpets, mats, rugs etc.)
Toys
Any and all other items that come in contact with the urine or feces, if your child has an accident well in my care.
The replacement cost must be paid in a reasonable amount of time. A payment payment plan can be discussed with me and my husband.
Acknowledgement of Policies
I, ____________________ _____ and ____________________ _____ have read and understand all the Toilet Training Policy for Valerie's Home Daycare run by Valerie E. M-------
We agree to abide by all policies stated in the Agreement. We understand that we will be notified in writing of any changes in these policies.
We also understand that any breach of policies may be grounds to terminate childcare. A two-week notice will be given in such circumstance unless the infraction is severe enough to warrant termination without notice. We also understand that any breach of the polices that causes damage to any of the above mentioned, but not limited to the above mentioned will result in having to pay 100% of the replacement cost of whatever has touched my child's urine and/or feces.
This arrangement will come into effect on ____________________ _______
Parent Signature ____________________ ______________
Parent Signature ____________________ ______________
Caregiver Signature ____________________ ____________
Today's Date ____________________ _________________
I am I going over board by having parents sign it??