godsgirl
11-08-2012, 02:08 PM
Bah!!!! I need some seriously advice and suggestions as to how to get my kids to lay off of each other. If it doesn't get any better soon I'm worried I'm just flip one day and scream 'SHUT UP!!!' :cursing:
Here's the deal:
I have 3 kids a 4 dcb, 5 dcg, and 10 dcb year old who are always riding each other and trying to get a rise from the other. The 2 boys are brothers (4 & 10 yr old) and they are always at each other (more so the older one to the younger one). But they both also gang up on the 5 dcg but she isn't a saint either and is always sticking her nose where it doesn't belong. Lately my biggest grievance with all of them is that they are always ALWAYS fighting about who is first. They fight about who knocks on the door first (mostly the boys and I know it drives the mom crazy too. She's even made them wait at the bottom of my stairs and she has walked up by herself to knock on my door in the AM to get them to stop), they fight about who walks through my door first when we leave to school in the AM and who walks through the door first after school. They fight about who washes their hands first, who pee's first, who's hand is on the door to open it (some days ALL 3 hands are on the knob!!). This week it has been unbearable and I have been trying to get them to just line up like normal human beings on their own accord with all of these instances. I've tried to get them to line up first come first serve (that didn't work because then it was a race to get their outdoor gear on or off and things always went flying), I've tried oldest to youngest, youngest to oldest and there is always a break down. The final straw was yesterday when we came home from school and they went in and raced to the bathroom (I get them to stand in the hall along the wall until it's their turn - but it never turns out that way as they are always cramming and smooshing to get to be the closest to the door). Anyways, the oldest was first but he was just standing there because he was 'saving' the 1st spot for his brother while the girl was wanting to go in because she had to go to the bathroom and the 10 yr old wouldn't let her through. My husband was closest to them and piped in for them to stop this junk and let her in. Afterwards, I had a big talk with all of them explaining that it's needs to stop. But today it's right back to the same crap!! Any suggestions for this drama? In the morning I'm normally pre-occupied trying to get the 2 younger kiddies ready (I normally get my 18 month old ready before I even send the older ones to the boot room and then bring in the 2 yr old dcb to get him ready while the others are getting ready and my boy sits on the other side of the gate so he is out of the way). After school the kids normally all run in before me and I'm stuck in the boot room getting all of the LO's stuff off while the drama unfolds down the hall.
The other thing is that they are ALWAYS looking for ways to get under each others skin. If one kids gets up from the chair then the other will jump in it saying 'you got out it's my seat now' even when it's for 2 bloody secs because they dropped a felt!! The boys (esp. the older one will whisper mean comments to the others saying 'you're mean' or whatever stupid thing he can think of). The 10 yr old is the biggest instigator of them all and I am always calling him out on it but it just seems to be getting worse as the school year is going on. The 4 yr old is pretty good when the older kids aren't there (he goes to school every other day and is here all day the other days) but as soon as the older brother shows up his whole demeanor changes (rough housing, crying, whining, basically turns into a big baby).
Any suggestions, for these things. I get kids will be kids and of course there will always be some fighting but this is getting to be stupid. My 1st and last hour of the day are the worst and it sucks everything out of me. However, my days are amazing once the older kids gone.
This afternoon I am going to try making them wait for me to get through the door first and appoint the order that they will be lining up outside the bathroom. Cross your fingers...:blink:
Mental Note: Don't do before and after school care :laugh:
Thanks for your help in advance
Here's the deal:
I have 3 kids a 4 dcb, 5 dcg, and 10 dcb year old who are always riding each other and trying to get a rise from the other. The 2 boys are brothers (4 & 10 yr old) and they are always at each other (more so the older one to the younger one). But they both also gang up on the 5 dcg but she isn't a saint either and is always sticking her nose where it doesn't belong. Lately my biggest grievance with all of them is that they are always ALWAYS fighting about who is first. They fight about who knocks on the door first (mostly the boys and I know it drives the mom crazy too. She's even made them wait at the bottom of my stairs and she has walked up by herself to knock on my door in the AM to get them to stop), they fight about who walks through my door first when we leave to school in the AM and who walks through the door first after school. They fight about who washes their hands first, who pee's first, who's hand is on the door to open it (some days ALL 3 hands are on the knob!!). This week it has been unbearable and I have been trying to get them to just line up like normal human beings on their own accord with all of these instances. I've tried to get them to line up first come first serve (that didn't work because then it was a race to get their outdoor gear on or off and things always went flying), I've tried oldest to youngest, youngest to oldest and there is always a break down. The final straw was yesterday when we came home from school and they went in and raced to the bathroom (I get them to stand in the hall along the wall until it's their turn - but it never turns out that way as they are always cramming and smooshing to get to be the closest to the door). Anyways, the oldest was first but he was just standing there because he was 'saving' the 1st spot for his brother while the girl was wanting to go in because she had to go to the bathroom and the 10 yr old wouldn't let her through. My husband was closest to them and piped in for them to stop this junk and let her in. Afterwards, I had a big talk with all of them explaining that it's needs to stop. But today it's right back to the same crap!! Any suggestions for this drama? In the morning I'm normally pre-occupied trying to get the 2 younger kiddies ready (I normally get my 18 month old ready before I even send the older ones to the boot room and then bring in the 2 yr old dcb to get him ready while the others are getting ready and my boy sits on the other side of the gate so he is out of the way). After school the kids normally all run in before me and I'm stuck in the boot room getting all of the LO's stuff off while the drama unfolds down the hall.
The other thing is that they are ALWAYS looking for ways to get under each others skin. If one kids gets up from the chair then the other will jump in it saying 'you got out it's my seat now' even when it's for 2 bloody secs because they dropped a felt!! The boys (esp. the older one will whisper mean comments to the others saying 'you're mean' or whatever stupid thing he can think of). The 10 yr old is the biggest instigator of them all and I am always calling him out on it but it just seems to be getting worse as the school year is going on. The 4 yr old is pretty good when the older kids aren't there (he goes to school every other day and is here all day the other days) but as soon as the older brother shows up his whole demeanor changes (rough housing, crying, whining, basically turns into a big baby).
Any suggestions, for these things. I get kids will be kids and of course there will always be some fighting but this is getting to be stupid. My 1st and last hour of the day are the worst and it sucks everything out of me. However, my days are amazing once the older kids gone.
This afternoon I am going to try making them wait for me to get through the door first and appoint the order that they will be lining up outside the bathroom. Cross your fingers...:blink:
Mental Note: Don't do before and after school care :laugh:
Thanks for your help in advance