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Spixie33
05-05-2011, 12:44 PM
I have this adorable cherub of a boy in my daycare. His hair is full of luscious curls and he really has these little angel cherub curls. The problem is that the parents seem to be reluctant to cut his hair and cut away these beautiful hair but the kids really can barely see out of his eyes. The hair hangs almost to his nose and is always in his eyes. In the winter it was okay because I would put his winter hat on and sweep the hair under it so he could see when we went for walks or to play but now the hair is just blowing all over his face and I know he can't see.

I have had the hair dresser give me long bangs before and it is annoying to have them hang come in front of your line of vision so I know how he feels. I can also understand that these kids have Celine Dion syndrome (reluctance to cut their first child's hair regularly).

I have been racking my brain on what to say or how to say it to not offend them or sound complaining but I really do feel bad for the boy. On the other hand parents are so sensitive and anything I say could be offensive. If he at least had bangs above his eyes and left the rest of his hair long it would be soooooo much better. People even joke when I go for walks with him and say 'can he see?' ahhhhh

Play and Learn
05-05-2011, 12:55 PM
If it was me, I would tell the parents that their son is having a hard time playing an interacting with the other children, and suggest to get his hair cut. Joke about how others ask how the little girl is......

If they don't react the way you want them to - like getting the kids hair cut, I would put elastics in his hair so he could see and play. Then see what the parents do when they pick up their son! lol

Spixie33
05-05-2011, 01:00 PM
If it was me, I would tell the parents that their son is having a hard time playing an interacting with the other children, and suggest to get his hair cut. Joke about how others ask how the little girl is......

If they don't react the way you want them to - like getting the kids hair cut, I would put elastics in his hair so he could see and play. Then see what the parents do when they pick up their son! lol

LOL about the elastics. We were at the park this morning and I was watching him trying to see hos playmates and I was seriously visualizing whether I should get him one of those sport hairbands that would pull his hair back. lol The poor little guy. I can imagine that the hair must be scratching against his eyeballs sometimes and that is just not a good feeling

Sunflower
05-05-2011, 01:49 PM
If it was me, I would tell the parents that their son is having a hard time playing an interacting with the other children, and suggest to get his hair cut. Joke about how others ask how the little girl is......

If they don't react the way you want them to - like getting the kids hair cut, I would put elastics in his hair so he could see and play. Then see what the parents do when they pick up their son! lol

I was going to suggest you do the exact same thing lol !

Emilys4Guppies
05-05-2011, 03:31 PM
"You must love these curls!! He's so angelic with them. Will it be emotionally hard for you when he gets his summer haircut? I was wreck when I had to cut my first son's hair so he could see properly...but don't you think they look like such sweet little men with fresh cuts?"

I would just work it into the conversation something like that. It's a great time of year to mention a summer cut.

I would avoid mentioning he looks like a girl, or putting elastics in his hair. In the end, it is just hair. And if he's really uncomfortable then his parents will see that soon enough on evenings and weekends. How old is he? Old enough to complain himself?

Otherwise, I would just put a hat on him. Ideally, all the kids should be wearing hats outside anyway, so just continue to tuck it under his sunhat.

mamaof4
05-05-2011, 05:33 PM
I would put a baseball cap on him and tuck his hair up as a first option, if it didn't work I would ask what his parents do at home for the problem

mom-in-alberta
05-10-2011, 12:31 PM
Yeah, I don't know if I would say or do anything, unless you feel like it is a safety concern. Is he running into things or falling down and tripping over stuff? Then I might mention it. I don't think I would put elastics into his hair, unless I took them out before mom and dad got there!
I used to have a little girl with the same issue. I did put her hair into a clip or ponytail, but only because she was extremely pigeon-toed and kind of clumsy. She had a hard enough time as it was with walking, nevermind having hair in her face!
I would definitely be tucking it up under a cap or hat while outside, though.

playfelt
05-10-2011, 01:49 PM
My son had the full head of curls. Everyone told me that after the first cut the curls would be gone and that would be it. His one set of grandparents wasn't able to come and visit us the second year till he was nearly 2 so for that whole time I didn't cut his hair cause the curls came from grandpa. I did trim just the front ones to be above his eyes though. Funny thing is he is now turning 23 and still has a head full of curls and this is many many hair cuts later. Even when he gets it cut quite short for the summer - he is a soccer player and doesn't want it in the way - the curls always come back. But I do know for many kids that little wispy baby curls once gone are gone. But it sounds like this little guy has permanent curly hair too.

Spixie33
05-10-2011, 03:35 PM
Yeah, I don't know if I would say or do anything, unless you feel like it is a safety concern. Is he running into things or falling down and tripping over stuff? Then I might mention it. I don't think I would put elastics into his hair, unless I took them out before mom and dad got there!
I used to have a little girl with the same issue. I did put her hair into a clip or ponytail, but only because she was extremely pigeon-toed and kind of clumsy. She had a hard enough time as it was with walking, nevermind having hair in her face!
I would definitely be tucking it up under a cap or hat while outside, though.

It is a safety concern too. This little guy does fall down a lot. I am not sure 100% if it is the hair or whether it is just that he is a bundle of energy who hasn't quite caught up with the motor skills and balance to match but I am sure the hair doesn't help.

the day after I posted his mom walked in and said " I know ! I know! I need to cut his bangs!" I almost had a heart attack thinking she had read the forum. lol :laugh: But one week later and still no hair cut.

we were at the park yesterday and he was on a piece of play equipment where there is a step up to the next level. I swear he didn't see it and fell and bumped his forehead. :blink: It was not good.

Playfelt - I never heard that about curls not coming back. I am pretty sure his are the real deal. His hair is really thick. It is not thin curly baby fine hair. He has some serious hair going on -- hair that most women would kill for. lol :)

playfelt
05-10-2011, 06:00 PM
Then it sounds like the real thing. Shawn's hair goes into the tightest tiny ringlets when wet - he hates it,lol. I have 4 kids - 3 girls and 1 boy - guess which one got the curls. My oldest girl has long thick red hair which she loves. My hubby's dad had the same curls as a boy so he comes by it genetically.

mom-in-alberta
05-11-2011, 01:34 AM
Well, if you are in fact worried that it's going to get him hurt, I think I would just say
"I noticed his hair was getting in his face and it seemed to be bothering him. What do you do at home?"
Hopefully they figure it out, soon! :)

playfelt
05-11-2011, 11:39 AM
Maybe if you put in a couple of the flat clips (not the fancy girlie barrettes but something plain) they may get the hint. Just accidentally leave them in and say oops and remove them at pickup and then explain to the parent about how much safer it is for the child and that he appreciates the hair out of his face all day. And then actually do it for the child. He is at an age where he doesn't know that boys don't wear barrettes so he probably will appreciate it - even if the parents don't they might just get the hint.

You could also just come flat out and say I understand you don't want to cut his hair but the bangs are now a safety hazard and either they need to be cut or I will have to pin them up while he is in care as I can't take responsibility for him falling because he can't see. Then it is either a cut or the barrettes but either way problem solved and safer and happier child.

Spixie33
05-11-2011, 12:30 PM
The mom knows - she told me last week and I quote "I know I need to really cut his hair so he can see" when she saw me and without me prompting.

Then I saw his grandma on monday and she said how thsi child really needs his bangs cut -- again without me saying anything

But...have they done it?? lol

I see this child again tomorrow - here's hoping they have trimmed at least. I don't even care what they do with the back of his head or the rest of it - I just would like to see his eyes. lol

Play and Learn
05-11-2011, 01:14 PM
Imagine if he came into your care with a mullet!?!?! :laugh:

Spixie33
05-11-2011, 01:30 PM
Imagine if he came into your care with a mullet!?!?! :laugh:

ROFL I would love it because at least he could see. It would look pretty silly though :-P

Emily3
01-05-2012, 04:18 PM
Hi! I'm new here and reading through old posts and this one grabbed me! I have this boy here right now! His hair is so long it is always stuck in his constantly runny nose and covered in food....totally disgusting! His parents are actually at odds with Dad desperate to cut it and Mom desperate to keep it!

VictoriaChildCare
01-05-2012, 11:27 PM
I have one in the same boat Emily, the older brother has a military haircut and my little friend has hair hanging in his face and he's 3. I don't get the fascination. I told mom the other parents were asking about the new little girl and she laughed. I'm just remembering that today he went home with an elastic in his bangs. The kids come first, I will do what I have to to keep them safe and happy.

playfelt
01-06-2012, 07:46 AM
It isn't just the boys either. I have a girl right now that is suffering the mom's indicision as to whether the child will have bangs or not. Till she makes up her mind she does nothing. I have finally convinced her to at least pull them up till decides. Now the child comes with a tiny elastic in them - we just grab the wad and put it in a pony tail but it sits on the top of her head in a cross between a Pebbles from the Flintstones and a water fountain look but at least she can see.

Judy Trickett
01-06-2012, 07:50 AM
I have a package of those non-hurting/pulling baby elastics in my drawer in the playroom. If ANY kid can not see due to their hair I put an elastic in and give them a whale tail on the top of their head. And, yes, I keep the elastic in so the parents get my not-so-subtle point.

mom-in-alberta
01-08-2012, 04:24 AM
Hair in the snot.... ewwww.
Nose goobers do me in, and that might just put me over the top. LoL :P