Dosing a child up on sugar prior to drop off

[Other Mummy]

:mad:

Has parenting today seriously gone out the window or do I have a serious dumb-ass DCD? DCB is a 2.5 yr old and quite the handful. Very loud, very wild, some days worse than others. I have dealt with so many issues with this child. DCM is great and tries to work with me. DCD is clueless or does not care.

3 or 4 times a week DCD will pull into my driveway or on the street and sit with DCB in the car for 10min or so. Hubby and I thought this was soooo strange, until I realized that these are the days that DCB comes with sugar and chocolate all over his mouth. So DCB is stuffing his mouth in the backseat with CRAP prior to coming in for breakfast. And might I add, that on these days, he rarely eats his breakfast. Maybe one or two bites.

So this morning same deal. DCD is in the car with DCB sitting for 10 min. Comes in and he's like a chipmunk with food in his cheeks. So I greet them "good morning, Oh my looks like your are eating donuts for breakfast again. DCB smiles and his teeth are coated with chocolate donut. DCD is..."Well...you know what it's like getting coffee at the drivethru...have to get him a donut as well" So I asked DCB...."How many did you have" And dad pipes up "only 1" Yeah. sorry DCD. I taught DCB how to count...so DCB Smiles that chocolate donut covered mouth and yells...I had TREE (three LOL!) DCD turns red as he was outed by his 2 1/2 year old.

I told DCD that he knows his son is already a handful. Please do not feed him sugar prior to daycare. It makes him all wired" DCD looks all shocked and suprised "Really?!". Ya. Right. You don't know your own kid by now????

So I can be a real bitch. Guess whose going loaded up with juice and fudge cookies before pick up tonite.:yes:

[bright sparks]

Hahaha. Thats to funny. High Five to you for calling the dcd out. Some people are just freakin' morons.

"Well...you know what it's like getting coffee at the drivethru...have to get him a donut as well"

Actually dcd, you could just say no!

[playfelt]

Actually dcd, you could just say no![/QUOTE]

Or drop child at daycare and then go for coffee. Dad is trying to be the good guy to his son and while it is well meaning it is detrimental to everyone and everything. He likely doesn't get that the sugar makes a difference.

[Other Mummy]

That is what I told dad. That you COULD drop DCB off and then go to the drivethru. I made a point to tell him that on weekends, we drop off our kids to their scheduled activities (gymnastics, language school, etc) and THEN go thru the drivethru for coffee.

And might I add, I said "I guess DCB won't be needing breakfast then" DCD was all "yes, he's still hungry, he'll eat" Yeah. Nope. Took 3 bites and declared he was done. Of course, who would want my healthy eggs, yogurt and wholewheat toast when you can have chocolate donuts. Dumbass DCD

[Crayola kiddies]

Or if "no" is too hard for parents why not a healthy(ier) muffin !!!!And while he's at it he could bring enough for everyone ; )

[treeholm]

I am so thankful that one of my screening questions was about sugar. I do not eat sugar myself, and do not feed any form of sugar to children (yup, no juice or muffins). I only accept parents who share my nutrition obsession, so this won't happen. But if it did... it would indeed be tempting to find something sweet to feed the child at pick up LOL

[Monday 2 Friday Mama]

Why do people try to tell falsehoods around children ? The truth always comes screaming out of their mouths....I remember one time years ago, when I tried to tell my husband that we should head out to dinner since there was nothing to eat in the fridge (not technically true - there was food, just not food of any sort that I wanted to eat that evening) My son, who was 5 at the time,looked at his Dad and repeated what I had been muttering under my breath while I gazed into the fridge for inspiration: "Mom said it looks like re-runs tonight !"

[sunnydays]

Hmmm...I never thought of having a "no junk food before daycare" rule...but definitely something to ponder in case I get a dad like this one! I have a little girl who is three and rarely eats her veggies and not even some fruits (although she is improving now after a month or so with me)...whenever I ask her what she had for breakfast before coming, she says "Captain Crunch!" or "Golden Grahams". Thank goodness it doesn't affect her behaviour though!

[BCchildcare]

Ugg, I hear you!! I have a family who brings their child with chocolate in hand. I used to say something and then got fed up because the behavior never stopped... Good for you for saying something. I also like your idea of hyping up the child before they go home, I just might do that tonight, so frustrated!!!

Not sure what to say anymore... :(

[Lou]

Yep, some people just don't get it. I do not serve breakfast, but a 9:30am healthy snack. My DCK's are allowed to bring in a healthy breakfast if the morning was rushed for them to eat at the table. Well, about once a week, dcg was bringing in those little boxes of fruit loops or corn pops and wanted to eat them dry at the table. I finally had to send out a newsletter that this was becoming a problem for the other children, as they view it as candy and aren't understanding why they can't have treats either...then I included a list of healthy alternatives that they MAY bring and stressed the importance of a healthy breakfast. It hasn't happened again, thankfully!

[bright sparks]

I have a no outside food policy which goes on to say that a child can not come to my door eating even if they are just finishing. I have had children with allergies in the past so I am extra cautious and don't want the remenants of their breakfast or snack on their hands and face. I also ask that their children are clean before coming to daycare to prevent the risk of allergic reactions.

[kidlove]

Prime example of where the next generation is headed, and it's by the direction of todays parents, no less! Wow. i have had similar situations before and I feel for you, it's really hard to deal with the situation when the parents are the problem, not the child! :) good for you for calling out this boneheaded Dad, is he eating tree donuts too? perhaps he and son have a secret from Mommy? Maybe you need to drop the info on Mom one of these days! ha ha

[Inspired by Reggio]

Umm yes because the lady at the drive thru MAKES him get a kid a donut :rolleyes:

Stories like this just make me shake my head and wonder how anyone can be so out in left field not to see their own 'culpability' in that aka you are just being LAZY and not doing yourself or your kid any favors ... like the lady who could not say 'no' to her toddler who only like McDonalds until the behavior got so out of control the poor thing is now 17 and has a had a diet of ONLY McDonalds for 15 years and is no malnourished with health issues and the mother is trying to blame McDonald's for that cause they brainwashed her kid with advertizing and happy meal toys :cursing:

I go through the Drive thru on route to playgroups sometimes to get myself some caffeine on those tough days and have had daycare kids say 'can we have timbits' and been able to say NO without them melting down or loosing their noodles ... donuts are a TREAT not something you eat everyday and children are competent and capable enough to understand that ... doesn't stop them from TRYING to get them but they are able to graciously accept the 'no not today'!

[apples and bananas]

We had a birthday here today, so I fed them all cupcakes and sent them home. LOL! There's some payback for ya!

[Momof4]

OtherMummy you are AWESOME! Kudos to you for telling that Dad exactly what you think. I'm so glad I'm not the only one who feels like a tyrant but the reason is that COMMON SENSE tells you not to feed a child 3 chocolate donuts at anytime of the day EVER, especially a hyper child. That Dad deserves a headsmack. Does he honestly think he's doing his son a favour by letting him eat all that sugar? OMG! I too tell the parents the honest truth. I have a child who comes in with a sippy full of chocolate milk a lot and it goes right into my fridge until it's time to send it home at night. Ugh!

[BCchildcare]

OtherMommy, I have to ask... how did dousing the child up with sugar go at the end of the day? Was dad aware that you did this?

[Other Mummy]

OtherMommy, I have to ask... how did dousing the child up with sugar go at the end of the day? Was dad aware that you did this?

I did not dose DCB up with sugar. I could not bring myself to do that to him (DCB...Not DCD..he totally deserves a hyper brat at the end of the day). I feel badly when I give my DCK's watered down juice with snack for goodness sake. Besides...if I pulled out all that sugar crap out, all the other children would have wanted some as well. :rolleyes:

I'm hoping that his little tot outing him out did the trick. No more sugar crap at drop off!

[angelina]

THREE! I will be hyper with that amount of donuts too, and I am a full grown adult.

other alternative is whole wheat n honey bagel with cream cheese. That is what i get from the drive through, and split it into 3 with my own kids.

Timbits: a treat, once a month, every payday given along with my usual veggie tray of the day. Timbits are way smaller compared to donuts, and when given before morning playtime, it is all burned out for the day. Plus its plain sugar, so they would come back for the veggie slices after playing hard.