Spixie33
01-19-2013, 09:52 AM
I really wish I could terminate one of my dcks based on personality. She is 16 months old and has been with me for 7 months now. She started off very clingy, crying a lot and wanting to be carried or within arm's length.
I figured it was just transitioning pains so she got past the probation period and I figured it would improve after 4 weeks but oh my goodness....the child has more bad days than good. :(
There are times where she will just cry and have no reason for it or still cry when she sees me walk out of the room and she won't calm down. Other children cry and then soothe themselves again but she just cries and cries unless I go pick her up and cuddle her. It is not realistic or practical that I can devote that much time to her and her needs when there are 4 other children in the group who need me and when she is getting older now.
The parents are great. They acknowledge that their child is high maintenance. I don't have a good reason to terminate other than this girl's personality grates on me at times. I sometimes feel like she can't go with the flow. If we are going downstairs - she is the last one to come and it takes me 10 minutes to convince her to climb downstairs....same when we go upstairs. It would be 'easy' for me to take her and carry her but that won't teach her anything and won't make her independent. So instead I stand there going 'come, you can do it...come here."
The parents pay on time, follow all policies and I just don't have a good reason to terminate other than I find their child stressful and think the child's personality is on the unlikable side of the spectrum. It isn't exactly something you can tell a parent and have them react well.
I feel bad saying no to some of these other parents who are inquiring for care when I wish I could swap them out for this child. I guess I am just venting. I feel a panic when I think she will be with me 2 more years. I can feel the grey hair coming on. I guess I need to hope and pray she will turn out to be a golden child along the way.
I figured it was just transitioning pains so she got past the probation period and I figured it would improve after 4 weeks but oh my goodness....the child has more bad days than good. :(
There are times where she will just cry and have no reason for it or still cry when she sees me walk out of the room and she won't calm down. Other children cry and then soothe themselves again but she just cries and cries unless I go pick her up and cuddle her. It is not realistic or practical that I can devote that much time to her and her needs when there are 4 other children in the group who need me and when she is getting older now.
The parents are great. They acknowledge that their child is high maintenance. I don't have a good reason to terminate other than this girl's personality grates on me at times. I sometimes feel like she can't go with the flow. If we are going downstairs - she is the last one to come and it takes me 10 minutes to convince her to climb downstairs....same when we go upstairs. It would be 'easy' for me to take her and carry her but that won't teach her anything and won't make her independent. So instead I stand there going 'come, you can do it...come here."
The parents pay on time, follow all policies and I just don't have a good reason to terminate other than I find their child stressful and think the child's personality is on the unlikable side of the spectrum. It isn't exactly something you can tell a parent and have them react well.
I feel bad saying no to some of these other parents who are inquiring for care when I wish I could swap them out for this child. I guess I am just venting. I feel a panic when I think she will be with me 2 more years. I can feel the grey hair coming on. I guess I need to hope and pray she will turn out to be a golden child along the way.