Irritated!

[kidlove]

My specific post is not day care related but connects to daycare in comment! Why are some people so ignorant (unknowing/stupid :() don't mean to be so blunt but there are no other words for it sometimes. We clearly are in the middle of flu season, cold and flu season. We have everything floating around from some sort of stomach bug that induces vomiting and the poops, to the full out influenza of fever chills, chest pain, cough, shortness of breath. WHY! if you or anyone else comes down with those illnesses would you consider putting your child in school or day care? it's just down right STUPID! aside from all the precautions we all take in keeping our homes germ free as possible to teaching kids proper hygiene such as hand washing and coughing into elbow etc. The best way to stay well is clearly to avoid those who are not well, and IF you are the carrier of an illness...you SHOULD STAY AWAY FROM OTHERS!!!!!!! GGGGRRRRR!
my post: ;)
my mom planned a really fun evening tonight called "pie day friday" ;) sounds cute..she is baking a couple pies and invited me and my siblings and our kids over for pie and games......well, just text my sister in law asking if they are going tonight? she says: "no, I'm sick" oh man, I feel bad for her told her to feel better, will miss her tonight. she sends another text saying, she was thinking of sending her kids over to Mom's for the day, assuming she wants a break and to get soeme rest cuz she's sick....so I ask her what type of sickness she has? she says, "not sure, my chest hurts, i have a fever, hot and cold chills, cough and can hardly talk." hhhmmmmm! sounds like influenza to me....and she plans to send her kids to my poor Mom's house for the day so she can get some rest, in turn possibly spread the illness to my older parents in the process, not to mention, she knew we were having the pie and game night which now?....unfortunatel y for my Mom, I will not be going in the hopes of keeping the illness from spreading to my family and on to the day care families as well. WHY! do people not keep the illness to themselves, these little epidemics would be a lot less of a deal if people would just , STAY AWAY from others when they are sick, rather than going into public, sending kids to school and daycare. Is it just me or do we as a nation seem to lack "common sense" anymore?:no:

[DeeDee]

I agree with you! They don't think about the big picture!!!! Although it is hard to think about that when you are really sick and just need some get well time.

[kidlove]

i agree that it stinks when you are sick and just need some get well time, but first off why at the expense of others and isn't that one of the down sides of being a parent? we have to do it all the time, not just when everythings coming up daisies. you know? life is tough, parenting is tough....having other people take care of your kids when you are under the weather is a cop out IMO, grow some, suck it up, and mother your own kids. If you are at work, well I'm sure most employers would frown on kids in the workplace and you have a job to do, but when you are home, your job is to be a parent not, sulk because you don't feel well. It's part of being a grown up.

[gcj]

hmmm.....while I do agree with you, I also see the other side of this. If she's too sick to take care of her kids and just needs to sleep all day, what's she supposed to do with the little ones? I never have that luxury. I never get kid-free sick days, BUT if you have that option and she doesn't have to drag her sick butt out of bed to make snacks, lunches, solve disputes, I can see her taking advantage of that.

If your parents were concerned they could say no. And if I was your parents, I'd be a little OCD and have the kids strip down at the door......since it's family, I'd possibly even make them shower quickly and put on fresh clothes. :p

[gcj]

whoa...well I guess you responded to my post AS I was writing it. Yikes. Okay. I mean that's what I do, but if someone offered to help me and let me be sick, I might just say yes!

[gcj]

I'd never ask......but if they were cool with it, and took precautions, I'd be like AWE-SOME! :D

[mimi]

Why? Selfishness. If you are so sick that you are unable to take care of your kids and yourself properly then perhaps someone (wearing a mask and who knows what they are walking into) can come over to the house and help, but do not send kids who have been exposed to other peoples homes, school and daycare. That is so mean and irresponsible on so many levels.

[kidlove]

Her husband works from home. One child is breastfed and the other is well behaved near 3 year old, they are young but between the hubby being home and mom needing to breastfeed, just keep your kids with you. Sure its tough and sure she may need rest, but she is also a grown up and life is tough sometimes, but why risk getting others ill, for your own convenience. just irritating!

[gcj]

wow...hubby's home too. So, why are you parents okay with having the kids over?

[Other Mummy]

hmmm.....while I do agree with you, I also see the other side of this. If she's too sick to take care of her kids and just needs to sleep all day, what's she supposed to do with the little ones? I never have that luxury. I never get kid-free sick days, BUT if you have that option and she doesn't have to drag her sick butt out of bed to make snacks, lunches, solve disputes, I can see her taking advantage of that.

If your parents were concerned they could say no. And if I was your parents, I'd be a little OCD and have the kids strip down at the door......since it's family, I'd possibly even make them shower quickly and put on fresh clothes. :p

I have to agree with this. This is what families do for each other. Sometimes you need good old fashioned sleep to get over a virus and you cannot do that with young children in the house. As long as the grandparents take precautions, (surgical mask, washing hands, stripping kids down and putting clean clothes on, etc.) I would do it for my kids in a heartbeat. (well...when they grow up and have little tykes of their own :)

[kidlove]

thanks for the backup girls, I knew you all would understand. i know everyone has a right to see things how they want, and I know everyone chooses to do things differently, i guess thats what makes life so darn interesting.....and I am for the most part fine with people living THEIR life as they see fit, but I get so upset when their lives intertwine with mine and affect the way I believe things should be done. :) having the day care for years i have learned first hand, how to take the best precautions and have learned first hand, how fast viruses can spread, and how easy. I am always on guard whether on the clock or not, i not only have my own families health in the back of my mind, but being a daycare provider I carry a communal responsibility to not promote the spread of illness. That being said, I grately appreciate the understanding and backup, sometimes I feel people like me are few and far between...then i sign on here and an in a world of many just the same as me...or close enough! ;)

[gcj]

yeah, I hear you...all about precautions in this line of work! Unfortunately quarantine isn't always an option, and we can't refuse kids when family is sick (depending on your contract, I suppose). I had a dck's mom home sick last week and I just wanted to wrap the dck in plastic! :laugh: But, we all took precautions and hallelujah, she got better and seemed to have kept it to herself!

Here's hoping your parents come out the same!

[kidlove]

thanks! gjc!

[Fun&care]

I just want to say that as women we should be supporting each other. If I had the option of having someone take care of the kids I would take it. We have had a pretty nasty flu here this week and it was not pretty. It can be very difficult to be a mother and be sick. And it's really up to the grandmother if she is up to it or not anyways.

[Inspired by Reggio]

I agree with both sides of this .... when you are showing visible signs of being sick you should not be out spreading it around to others by going to work or sending sick children to school or daycare or extra curricular activities!

However if you have only been 'exposed' I would be extra cautious in my own hand washing and so forth but I would be wanting some 'distance' from those exposing me to try to keep myself healthy and would want the same for my children ~ when we are under the weather my spouse and I always sleep in separate beds to help reduce the exposure to each other, make extra careful not to share hand towels and so forth.

I also do not mind bringing daycare children whose family is sick into care in hopes to prevent them from getting it themselves by not having the sick person directly preparing their food and sharing their oxygen all day long and so forth ... I am always extra vigilant if I know they have something at home they have been exposed to to ensure hand washing and not mouthing toys or what not and more often and not than the child or sibling does not end up getting it and well with somethings nothing you do is going to prevent ya from getting it cause the germ is insidious :(

So as the grandma if my daughter was sick I would so offer to take the kiddies and the spouse for that matter if it would give her time to recover without exposing the others and hopefully containing it.

However it does suck that it occurred on the night of a 'planned family party' and grandmas choice to allow the exposed kids to come than means that other families than have to choose to take that risk or miss out on the party :(