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gramma
02-11-2013, 08:55 AM
the family that I terminated a week ago kept bugging to come up pick up their daughters belongings and I wasnt agreeable to a daytime pick up and I didnt want them coming in the evening because I didnt want them running into any of my clients because they are so bitter over the whole thing. I told mom that i would have everything together on Saturday at lunch time and that if I was going to be out I would place it in my enclosed porch. She replied saying fine and that they would come around 2pm. I was out most of the day but the stuff was still there when i got home at 5. I went out for the evening at 7 and brought it into the house. I was home all day sunday and they never came. no phone call, no email, no text to say when or if they are coming.
Its weird because this mom was so persistant in wanting these things back, that she pestered me all week with emails and then they dont show to pick it up. How long do I hold on to this stuff. Its all in a big diaper box that I dont really want to have hanging around. Its just a few outfits, diapers, cream, tylenol, bottles and a sippy cup.
would just like it gone.

DisneyPrincess
02-11-2013, 09:02 AM
Well I would definitely not contact them again for sure. I guess just leave in the closet for a while and even if she shows up during the daycare hours, you dont let her in, just open the door, give, and close the door. I hope she doesnt owe you any money !?!?!

playfelt
02-11-2013, 09:02 AM
If you are so concerned about them coming onto your property to pick up them it might be best if you arranged to drop it off to them.

I would make sure if I was having them come to my house that I did it when my husband was going to be home and ideally that there were no other daycare kids in the house.

Other Mummy
02-11-2013, 09:06 AM
Yup, she's only doing this to yank your chain gramma, it's a power struggle at this point (for her). Don't feed in to her drama. Just do as others have posted. Leave them in your enclosed porch and go about your daily routine.

Consider yourself blessed to be rid of this family :rolleyes:

gramma
02-11-2013, 09:15 AM
Yup, she's only doing this to yank your chain gramma, it's a power struggle at this point (for her). Don't feed in to her drama. Just do as others have posted. Leave them in your enclosed porch and go about your daily routine.

Consider yourself blessed to be rid of this family :rolleyes:

I definately dont want daytime pick ups even if its in the porch because I have dogs that will bark and potentially wake kids up. and yes, disney, the do owe me money but i'm never going to see it so I have let that go and given what a great week i had last week not having to get up so early i'm fine with the loss.

Im not going to contact them, i just dont feel like having this box hanging around. I'm going to be away on holiday soon and I dont want them bugging my daughter for it when im away. I just dont know how long i have to hang onto it before donating it somewhere.

after their behavour playfelt there is no way i'm giving up my time to drop it off to them. I just thought it strange that she was so focussed on getting it and then not showing up.

treeholm
02-11-2013, 09:17 AM
I would drop it off at her house just to be done with her. That way I could relax knowing she had no reason to contact me again. It would be worth the inconvenience of going to her house to have that peace.

mimi
02-11-2013, 09:22 AM
I would email her and tell her the box of goodies will be on your porch this Saturday. If the box is not picked up between xx - xx then items will be donated/thrown out.
Or, if you don't want them on your property again, email you will drop off items at a certain time convient to you and leave on their front stoop.
This is something that can be added to our policies. All items not picked up within 48 hrs shall become the property of the daycare.

Crayola kiddies
02-11-2013, 09:28 AM
Not sure if this is legal but I would contact her one more time and give her one more chance for her to pick up .... Say this sat morning (whatever is convienient for you) and let her know that if she is not there at that time you will be heading out to run errands and you will drop the box off in the nearest donation drop bin.

Crayola kiddies
02-11-2013, 09:29 AM
Haha Mimi we were typing at the same time only I forgot to hit send

MonkeyPrincess
02-11-2013, 09:44 AM
I would email her and tell her the box of goodies will be on your porch this Saturday. If the box is not picked up between xx - xx then items will be donated/thrown out.
Or, if you don't want them on your property again, email you will drop off items at a certain time convient to you and leave on their front stoop.
This is something that can be added to our policies. All items not picked up within 48 hrs shall become the property of the daycare.

And whether you decide to do, either drop it off or let her pick it up, keep copies of those e-mails. Perhaps you can print it and put it in her file for future reference. I am fan of putting everything in writing. Then you always have concrete proof to fall back on.

I hope she is not a manipulative person who would come to pick up her stuff and then try to accuse you of it going missing. I know this may be a bit far fetched but i would hate this to happen to you. I learned the hard way when Something like that happened to me. When we had our basement reno's done, there was a huge fall out between us and the contractor. He was slacking on his work severely but kept asking for more money. We finally said no and pointed out all of his deficiencies and he up and quit just like that. When i realized he left all of his tools behind i texted him telling him to come get it all. He tried BS'ing me, like saying he would be here at 6am to pick it all up, or at 9pm or on weekends etc. I agreed to allow his friend (whom i met and who worked here with him a few times) to come pick it all up. While the guy was on his way, i quickly drew up paperwork saying that so-and-so picked up all tools on (date). I also added a clause that said that my husband and i were relieved of any and all responsibilities relating to said tools and that so-and-so (the guy) took full responsibility of the tools. I also took pictures of all the tools and set my video recorder to record our interaction. At first the buddy didn't want to sign the papers saying that he didn't want to take responsibility for anything so i texted the contractor letting him know this. The contractor called his buddy and said it was ok and for him to sign it. He ended up loading everything in his car as i recorded everything. I haven't heard back from anyone to this day, but having known him and his wife, i know if i didn't cover my tracks, they would have found a way to screw me over.

Whoa! Sorry for the rant!:o

apples and bananas
02-11-2013, 09:57 AM
I would have someone else... like my hubby... drop the box off on their porch. I would text or email them to let them know it will be there for them. That way they have no reason to come to your home or bother you or your daughter.

dodge__driver11
02-11-2013, 10:26 AM
This has hapened to me 3x the first time I gave parents 48 hours to pick thier things up, I called, texted and emailed said notice. (I ended up throwing the things away)

And, the second and third times I had my husband drop off the things on the front steps in a labled box. (I emailed and called before hand to say I was doing this)

gramma
02-11-2013, 10:42 AM
I would drop it off at her house just to be done with her. That way I could relax knowing she had no reason to contact me again. It would be worth the inconvenience of going to her house to have that peace.

she doesnt live close by. she's at the other end of town and i dont know that area at all.

kidlove
02-11-2013, 10:45 AM
i was just going to say what treeholm said...just drop it off at their house and be done with them, seems they want the stuff badly and you want them off your back, so just bring it to them and move on!!!! ;) I have in the past donated things to the goodwill, IF parents never contacted me regarding their kids stuff, I have also sold unwanted items in my yard sales as well....I dont reccomend that with these ones of course, they seem to want their stuff, so just bring it to them and be done! good luck!