Toys being broken

[Dragon Owner]

Hi, I am new here, I have been looking after kids in my home for about 3 yrs, and I am in need of some advice.
I have a 4 yr old Dcb I have had him since he was 1, and lately he is impossible to handle. In the last 2 weeks he has broken at least 5 toys and he hurts the younger kids. I have talked to the parents, it does no good.
What can I do to put and end to this? I have no more ideas.
Please help!

[BlueRose]

is he braking the toys on purpose? if so then you might want to add this to your contract (its in mine)

We agree to paying 100% of replacement cost for any damages that may occur do to intentionally damage of my property through destructive behaviour, roughness or due to a breach of one or more of my policies listed in this agreement or on the daycare website; xxxxxxx.com. And the reimbursement will be paid within a reasonable time frame.

if the toys are being broken by accident them this will not apply. So far the toys I have had broken are by accident. Some toys just are not made well. But if the child does brake a toy on purpose (being too rough after being told to calm down) this will come into effect.

This will also help get the parents on board with teaching their child to be more careful.

Sometimes the parents need to be punished before they are willing to listen to you and help out.

[Dragon Owner]

Thanks BlueRose, I spoke to a parent (Df) and he says he is going to replace the toy Dcb broke on Friday. This parent has made alot of promises that I haven't seen results to, so we shall see if a toy comes on Monday.
How do I help the Dcb though, how can I help him to understand that this isn't right, I have taken fav toys away, I have done time out, what feels like a 100 times, and it does nothing.

[Bookworm]

I would try giving him toys that are considered "baby" toys because he is so rough with the big kid toys. Once he can prove to you that he is "big" enough to play with other toys, then allow him to play with the toys again.

[BlueRose]

I would try giving him toys that are considered "baby" toys because he is so rough with the big kid toys. Once he can prove to you that he is "big" enough to play with other toys, then allow him to play with the toys again.

that sounds good. If he is rough with these toys try stuffed animals. Keep taking toys away and time outs. Also keep the parents responsible for replacing any broken toys. They will get tried of replacing them and start working with their kid at home.

[playfelt]

Hi, I am new here, I have been looking after kids in my home for about 3 yrs, and I am in need of some advice.
I have a 4 yr old Dcb I have had him since he was 1, and lately he is impossible to handle. In the last 2 weeks he has broken at least 5 toys and he hurts the younger kids. I have talked to the parents, it does no good.
What can I do to put and end to this? I have no more ideas.
Please help!

If you have had the child since he was a year and this is a new problem then you are dealing with something bigger than broken toys in that that is the result not the problem so until the problem is dealt with the toy issue will remain and negative behaviour may escalate. Child is angry about something and more likely something at home than at daycare so you will need to work with the parents to find out what is going on. It is probably something that has happened or is happening and not something specific they can put their finger on. Try to remember the week it started and go from there - did the parents sort the toy box and give away his baby toys, did they rearrange his room and change out his comforter for a new one ( same as getting rid of something from his babyhood), no longer using a booster seat, did a new daycare child start, a daycare child start to walk or no longer take a morning nap, even giving him things for big kids but having him play in an area alone to keep the things from the babies can seem like a punishment to the older child as in being sent away rather than a positive perk.

[Crayola kiddies]

In addition what playfelt said .... Sometimes it's marital problems between mom and dad. I had a little boy who almost changed over night ... After about two weeks I mentioned it to mom and she broke down in years says they were having problems and there was a lot of fighting in front if the child.

[Dragon Owner]

Thank you gals so much, you have given me great advice.

[Dragon Owner]

So, no toy has come yet, and I asked today if one was coming, and I was told that I didn't understand how hard this was for them and that the toy was coming on top of the other toys they already gave me.
Okay this is true, but they gave me some toys 2 YEARS AGO. Were they given to me for future toys that their kid was gonna break? :unsure: