Please help!!!!!

[mommylove]

Hello ladies

I have a dcg whos now been with me for 2 month and is quite the handful (tantrums) but I deal with it well and try not to let it bother me.....but at around 1045 everyday dcg gets very very cranky (tired) usually we are outside at this time and usually we have to come in cause dcg wont stop crying so today we came in and I started to make lunch (pre prepped 5 minutes) and the entire time she is crying, I know that what I am serving (egg salad sand with cut up veggies) dcg doesnt like and I know she probably wont eat (but I serve it anyways) she throws a massive fit and throws all her food on the floor and screams so I put her to bed!!!

what should I do, if shes tired by 1045 and its so disruptive but nap time is at 12 30 most of the time dcg goes to sleep at 12 00 but usually its alot of the same thing everyday:( Im at my wits end dont know what to do SUGGESTIONS PLEASE!!!!

Oh dcg is just over 1 year old
and I have tried 2 naps but its a fight to get her down for both the morning and the afternoon and again its very disruptive of our day......HELP

[PattyCake]

I had the same issues with one of my infants....I found the solution was to give him a small bottle of milk (about 3oz) shortly after snack time at 10:00am just to hold him over until lunch time and it worked out great. Good luck!

[mommylove]

thanks patty cake but I think its more cause shes tired at 10 45 that she gets really cranky but I will try that anyways as you never know

[bright sparks]

I'd be inclined to put her down for a 30 minute catnap much earlier say 9, so that when she is outside later she can make it to lunch with less dramatics. She may not sleep at first but even if you just treat it like a quite rest time it might help. Give it a try for a week to see if it makes a difference but it might take some time even beyond the week to see a change.

[mommylove]

thanks I will.......im willing to try anything at this point

[Crayola kiddies]

All my dcks arrive early before 730 so that means they are up around 6 am if thus is the case with your 12 month old then I would put her down around 8 or 830 and only for 30-45 mins then wake her up and go outside. This will hopefully get her though lunch and because its a short nap it shouldn't Intercede with the pm nap. I have one that is 18 months and he still sometimes needs that 30 mins in the am to get though the morning and I have another 15 month old that if he falls asleep in the am even for 15 mins there will be no pm nap. So every kid is different but you gotta try and see what works.... Also I would be clamping down on the food throwing ....

[playfelt]

Will she go into a playpen if you take it outside and more or less settle for a rest on her own even if she doesn't sleep she is confined and movement is limited so she is more likely to get enough rest to cope and she still gets fresh air.

[DaycareLady]

I have two 1 year olds that I put down for a morning nap as soon as they get here...around 8 or 8:30ish. They are both crank pots if I try and make them wait until afternoon nap....which I do early (12:30pm every day).
My daughter is 15 months and I am just fading out her morning nap...some days are super hard around that 10ish mark but this is when we go outside or for a walk and she is distracted enough but I usually have to put her down around 12ish and the rest of the crew around 12:30! Good luck!!

[sunnydays]

LIke the others said, I would get her having a morning nap at around 8:30 so that she is up by the time you want to go outside. She will get used to it. I would just let her sleep for 30-40 minutes so it doesn't mess up her afternoon nap. Overtied babies are no fun :(

[Sassygirl]

I have all early arrivals between 6:45-7:30 so they are all woken up before 6am and still need a morning nap.
I agree with the others, try an early morning nap for 30-45 mins OR move up the afternoon nap. The defiance and acting out is definitely from fatigue.
Good luck!

[mommylove]

I was putting her for a morning nap then she wasnt going down for an afternoon nap so I stopped, that being said I was putting her down at 9 15 ish till 10 ish but if I put her down earlier 830 as you guys suggest I could wake her up at 915 and I'm sure then she would be ready to sleep @ 1230PM I guess i will have to play around with her schedule a bit but I think that should work and that the time my dcb is sleeping anyways. Also I have a dcb not even 1 year old who already naps in the morn my problem with him is he goes down no problem at 1230 but wakes up 40 minutes later crying??? what would you guys do? my gut tells me to let him cry it out and sleep train him so he sleeps longer? how long is to long to let him cry?

[Sassygirl]

For me morning nap is for the ones who need it which is 8:30-9:30. All my little ones, including my son are 11-14 months old and all are early risers. Afternoon nap is mandatory here is 12:30-3. I would try putting the dcg down earlier because once you miss that little window and they get overtired you are in trouble! For the dcb do his nap same time, only 45 mins max then make him stay in the playpen the entire afternoon nap period. Babies tend to have 45 minute sleep cycles so him waking up after 40 mins makes a lot of sense. Go in once and reassure him, lay him back down, tell him night night and leave the room until nap time is over. Have you tried darkening curtains? A white noise machine? I have 5 white noise machines and they are fabulous!

[mommylove]

sassygirl thats exactly what I did with dcb today I felt bad letting him cry but I know I have to do it or he will continue doing this everyday.....I just wanted to make sure I wasnt leaving him to cry to long....but he cried for 35 minutes and now has been sleeping since 150 :) I will just stick to it and hopefully it gets better. As for dcg I also agree and will be putting her down daily for a 45 minutes in the am I think thats the solution.......THANK EVERYONE FOR AGAIN SOME GREAT ADVICE AND REASSURANCE :)