Just a vent

[MonkeyPrincess]

I hate when parents 'tell' you what they are going to be doing. Like for example they will be bringing their kid earlier the next day, or saying they will be bringing their child on a day that they don't normally come. Now mind you i don't mind the extra cash, and i don't mind the child coming early since my first kid comes at 6.45 am 2 days a week and the other gets here at 7.15 am, but i think it's annoying when people don't even ask, they just 'tell' me. I know they way i run my daycare is a little more casual than some others run theirs, but i still have contracts, paperwork, etc. Except for one child, who is the daughter of a 'friend' couple from high school. Nice people, i love them and their kid and i always say yes when they need me earlier or an extra day, but sometimes they forget to 'ask'.

[KellyP]

Usually if people ask, I try to accommodate them.

If they tell me, then I usually find a way to say it won't work for me.

Just because. I am NOT anyone's employee and I run my business the way I choose to. If you need something that I am not contracted to provide to you, ASK me but don't TELL me.

I find that rude and insulting.

[JennJubie]

Agreed, we work for us, not them. I'm the same way, I'll try to accomodate if I'm asked.

I had a sick call this morning. Mom tells me her son has a fever... then says she'd prefer not to send him because my dd has a cough, and she's afraid that my dd might get him even more sick. I politely informed her that my dd's cough was due to allergies, not illness. Her son however, did need to stay home based solely on the fact that he had a fever.

[sunnydays]

Well...it is likely exactly because you are more casual in your approach that parents feel they can tell you things rather than ask. I am friendly and understanding, but I stick to my rules and parents know that...so I almost never get parents telling me what they are doing...they ask and they are very understanding if I say no. It's unfortunate, but when we are soft people take it for weakness.

[Judy Trickett]

I hate when parents 'tell' you what they are going to be doing. Like for example they will be bringing their kid earlier the next day, or saying they will be bringing their child on a day that they don't normally come. Now mind you i don't mind the extra cash, and i don't mind the child coming early since my first kid comes at 6.45 am 2 days a week and the other gets here at 7.15 am, but i think it's annoying when people don't even ask, they just 'tell' me. I know they way i run my daycare is a little more casual than some others run theirs, but i still have contracts, paperwork, etc. Except for one child, who is the daughter of a 'friend' couple from high school. Nice people, i love them and their kid and i always say yes when they need me earlier or an extra day, but sometimes they forget to 'ask'.

Then just tell them NO.

Your business - your rules.

If you let someone push you around once they will do it all the time.

[Momof4]

Lilywildcat, Judy beat me to it, but I was going to ask you if you practice saying the word NO? When I was a young woman I was pushed around and walked over all the time and I learned the hard way to say NO. It takes practice but if you let people take advantage of you they WILL take advantage of you. No question about it. Put your foot down.