Heart broken :(

[DeeDee]

So this is my second week with my new dck's. and last night my husband and I came to the conclusion that we are going to get separated. So I have to move back to the city and will have to close the daycare.. I was just getting settled in :(. How do I tell my parents... It hasn't been a full two weeks yet and I am moving out next week. So Friday is my last day. On top of that I had to cancel this morning because of the stomach flu.. Maybe it's nerves and not the flu but never the less I've been up for 24 hours and am in no shape to take care of any dck today...

[jodaycare]

So sorry to hear that.

[cfred]

Sorry to hear of your separation. It's a pretty sucky time and I've been there myself. Take good care of yourself and lean on your girlfriends and family :)

Do you have to move? Couldn't he move because your income depends on the home you're in? I'm sure your families will understand in the end that there's not much you can do about the situation.

[mimi]

I'm sorry to hear you are going through a really hard time. As a person who has been there, I can't stress enough to you that you have to look after yourself emotionally and physically. It is the stress of the situation that will do you damage.
Give the parents immediate notice stating an important family event has occurred that you did not forsee. Offer to write them reference letters to their next DCP and wish them well.
When this happened to me, I felt that a bomb had gone off in my personal life..........now with time gone by and a step back perspective, I see it was one of the best decisions under the circumstances I could make. Take deep breaths and focus on what is really important now - you and your family. The dcparents will find another great provider.

[BlueRose]

Sorry to hear of your separation.

Maybe there are some providers on here who have room to take a kid. Where are you located?
hopefully someone can help you out.

[jazmic]

DeeDee... if there's anyway (and of course, I don't know the circumstances), but if at all possible, I encourage you to fight for your marriage.

All the best. :)

[Sandbox Sally]

DeeDee... if there's anyway (and of course, I don't know the circumstances), but if at all possible, I encourage you to fight for your marriage.

All the best. :)

:huh: Sometimes, it's best to know when to walk away. I don't remember her asking for marital advice.

[jazmic]

I know she didn't. :) There's no need to take offence.

[Sandbox Sally]

I'm not offended. I am, however, surprised at the liberty you've taken here.

[PattyCake]

I can't offer you any advice because I don't know what to say, but I will send you a big hug of support :flower:

[jazmic]

@ Sally. I'm not going to contribute further to hijacking this thread. If you'd like to continue this discussion, feel free to pm me. @ Deedee... I do wish you all the best in this tough time. I hope you're not offended by what I said. Only you know what's best for you. Stay strong. :)

[apples and bananas]

I've been there. It absolutely sucks! I feel for you.
If you need to leave then tell your parents as soon as you possibly can get the words out. Give them a written notice as well as a brief description. If it's something that you can't help, then that's just it, you can't help it.

I would highly suggest that you re look at staying in your home and having him leave. Or moving him into a separate part of the house... basement maybe? And reside together, but separate, until you have everything sorted out.

If this is your income and you intend to move within weeks, I would assume that would be hard to manage.

Don't ever let someone remove you from your home or business.

[Skysue]

I too am sorry that you are going throught this and the timming just stinks. Is there any way that you can contact a provider in your area looking to fill spots and see who has availablity? If you have a really good referal it might help the transition!

Good Luck!

There is always light at the end of every tunnel, life is never easy but stay strong and best of luck to you!

Virtual Hug!

[Momof4]

I'm a divorced woman so I know it's an incredibly difficult thing to endure, but don't take any chances with custody of your children, don't leave them anywhere with anyone if you can help it until you have something in writing. Wishing you all the best.

[busydaycarelady]

Can't offer much other than to say, sorry you're going though this. Do what's best for YOU and your children. Lean on family and friends too. They're here to support you. I'm sure your daycare parents will be understanding. Life happens and goes on regardless. I firmly believe everything happens for a reason, even though we don't know what that reason may be. I wish you all the best and hope this transition goes smoothly for all of you.

[kidzandme]

I understand and sympathize with you. It is indeed a difficult time. I am also divorced. I only offer this piece of advice, before you make any decisions to move out etc. talk to a lawyer. Find one you are comfortable with. Do not leave your home until you get legal advice. I know it is hard to focus at this time, but your future depends on this. You have nothing to lose by getting legal advice first. I send you a huge warm hug and will also tell you that this too shall pass.