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Wonderwiper
06-26-2013, 03:40 PM
Hi everyone!

I have not been around very much lately and was just wondering if anyone knew where Reggio went???

playfelt
06-26-2013, 03:52 PM
Good question, now that you mention it I think it has been awhile since she has posted. I'm trying to remember how old their step son was - wasn't he graduating this year?

torontokids
06-26-2013, 04:13 PM
It's funny you asked as I have been wondering the same thing but didn't want to come off "stalkerish" for asking, heh heh

torontokids
06-26-2013, 04:22 PM
I don't think I have seen her on here since just before the whole "apples and bananas" unicorn provider thread. OK, now I seem like a stalker, heh heh

Crayola kiddies
06-26-2013, 04:31 PM
If I remember correctly she was using her time during naps to do the chores she usually did at night because she and hubby joined a gym and were going at night .... However I was hoping she would pop in now and again ..... I sure miss her input.... I haven't seen "kidlove" in a long time either

Momof4
06-26-2013, 05:10 PM
Actually, I've missed you Wonderwiper and I was wondering about Kidlove and MomInAlberta and Cadillac, some of the really knowledgeable people have gone missing lately. I know the person you asked about in this thread and she has taken over a local forum where I no longer wish to belong and I don't keep in touch at all except with some of the other lovely local ladies in the biz.

Sandbox Sally
06-27-2013, 08:30 AM
I have seen Cadillac posting here and there, but not like she was last year. I miss her! And Reggio. :)

playfelt
06-27-2013, 09:15 AM
Our business for sure has it's ups and downs. Sometimes life is really busy especially if we have taken on a new infant and we go through periods of barely able to read emails to keep up to date let alone reply. I think too when things are going really well for us we forget that it might not be for others and the purpose of this forum is to share the good and bad times and help each other out so when life is good is when we need those people to comment and keep others in the heat of bad times more grounded. For those out west I'm sure their minds have been on other things the last couple of weeks. Even if they themselves were not affected most will know someone that was and the mind just is on other things.

Also other things right now include end of school year, summer vacations, often a turn over of children in care, playing outside most of the day limiting computer time, etc. Maybe we should start a thread for a monthly check in so everyone could post what's up be it good or bad or whatever - not a place for others to comment, just a place to share our position with others.

dodge__driver11
06-27-2013, 09:24 AM
I actually keep in touch with her outside daycare bear, and here is what she told me.

Thank you so much for asking that is very sweet!

All is well over here ~ I have just made some commitments to improving my health and well being in the New Year which meant changing how I prioritize my time and cutting back how much time is spent online to only 'must do' things so that I have more time for going to the gym and preparing healthier meal choices and so forth.

Forums sadly are very like an addiction for me ~ I tried to 'cut back' while still participating on all my favorite ones in the New Year but before I know it I have spent way more time on them than I intended to cause I get caught up in wanting to help or share experience to help others and my chores were falling further and further behind around the house cause I was still committed to going to the gym ..... so for me it had to be more of a 'cold turkey' thing of just stop going on many of the forums I use to and limiting my time online during the day to no more than 30 minutes total!

Hope all is well in your neck of the woods!

Take Care,

"Reggio"

mimi
06-27-2013, 10:28 AM
Thanks for letting us know Dodge. So happy to hear Reggio isn't visiting this forum because she is busy implementing her improved life style and sounds happy doing it. Take care Reggio, hope to hear from you soon. :)

dodge__driver11
06-27-2013, 10:32 AM
I have to admit as well that I have been here a lot less, just not enough time, and some times other things to do.

playfelt
06-27-2013, 11:28 AM
I for one should be paying more attention to making better use of my out of daycare hours too but it sure is a challenge when just sitting down with a cup of tea and the computer is an option. I find I am spending most naptimes on here instead of getting at least something done like a tub of laundry and then having to do it at the end of the day instead. We are our own worst enemies aren't we, lol.

sunnydays
06-28-2013, 05:51 AM
I for one should be paying more attention to making better use of my out of daycare hours too but it sure is a challenge when just sitting down with a cup of tea and the computer is an option. I find I am spending most naptimes on here instead of getting at least something done like a tub of laundry and then having to do it at the end of the day instead. We are our own worst enemies aren't we, lol.

I have the same problem! Once I sit down and get on the computer, it is sooooo hard to stop! I always promise myself I will get the laundry folded or do some dusting or something during naptime...but I NEVER do! Computers are evil and addictive :(

Play and Learn
06-29-2013, 10:02 AM
Not on here much either, but I now have my own DD 7 months to care for in my spare time!

Sandbox Sally
07-09-2013, 12:39 PM
Not on here much either, but I now have my own DD 7 months to care for in my spare time!

OMG you had a baby??? :wub::wub::wub:

How did I miss this? Congratulations!

Judy Trickett
07-09-2013, 03:18 PM
Yes, I agree that forums can be time-suckers. But I also think they are a tremendous resource. Where else can you get an instant, situation-specific answer from experienced professionals in a matter of minutes? In any other profession that level of free coaching would cost you thousands of dollars. Most dcproviders are very non-egotistical people and therefore do not see each other as competition and freely share ideas, solutions and advice. I think you would be hard-pressed to find any other profession that shares as freely with it's "competition".

I also believe that forums save children's lives. I really do. I have personally talked many a provider off the ledge and brought them out of levels of frustration that could have potentially caused harm to both the children in their care and/or themselves. And these were normal, caring, reasonable people who were just pushed too far that particular day. They are/were not monsters or "unfit". They are just people with emotions and feelings, and frustrations like anyone else, who, unlike any other profession, have no where, except an internet forum, to get the support they needed. And, sadly, they had to do it with a level of anonymity because, in this profession, there exists a double-standard and people judge.

Forums save children's lives, the sanity of providers, the employment of many a provider as well as all the positive, good things like ideas and activities and crafts.

I don't begrudge any provider for having daily internet time. I am going to bet that if you could go and speak with providers who have committed atrocious crimes against children you would find they were isolated and had no one to talk to. They were likely walked all over by parents, and felt they were just an "employee". THOSE are the providers who find themselves in irreversible situations.

Forums are the best thing that ever happened to the daycare profession.

jammiesandtea
07-09-2013, 03:24 PM
Yes, I agree that forums can be time-suckers. But I also think they are a tremendous resource. Where else can you get an instant, situation-specific answer from experienced professionals in a matter of minutes. In any other profession that level of free coaching would cost you thousands of dollars. Most dcproviders are very non-egotistical people and therefore do not see each other as competition and freely share ideas, solutions and advice. I think you would be hard-pressed to find any other profession that shares as freely with it's "competition".

I also believe that forums save children's lives. I really do. I have personally talked many a provider off the ledge and brought them out of levels of frustration that could have potentially caused harm to both the children in their care and/or themselves. And these were normal, caring, reasonable people who were just pushed too far that particular day. They are/were not monsters or "unfit". They are just people with emotions and feelings, and frustrations like anyone else, who, unlike any other profession, have no where, except an internet forum, to get the support they needed. And, sadly, they had to do it with a level of anonymity because, in this profession there exists a double-standard and people judge.

Forums save children's lives, the sanity of providers, the employment of many a provider as well as all the positive, good things like ideas and activities and crafts.

I don't begrudge any provider for having daily internet time. I am going to bet that if you could go and speak with providers who have committed atrocious crimes against children you would find they were isolated and had no one to talk to. They were likely walked all over by parents, and felt they were just an "employee". THOSE are the providers who find themselves in irreversible situations.

Forums are the best thing that every happened to the daycare profession.


I agree wholeheartedly with all of this. Very well said, Judy!

KellyP
07-09-2013, 05:11 PM
Judy is sooooo right! Forums have been a life saver for me and had it not been for forums..... I'd be crying daily right along with a couple of my worst daycare kids.

It's just nice to know that other's are in the same boat now and then.

mimi
07-09-2013, 07:30 PM
So true!! Pre Daycare Bear forum I shudder now to think how little I knew about business, standing up for myself and my work (had no trouble in the corporate world, yet self employment made me feel vulnerable) and yes, about child care in general. I do not think it is a waste of time visiting a couple forums that potentially you will learn something from and improve your business. Thank you to all the ladies on this forum who made me a better provider through you opinions and advice.

Momof4
07-10-2013, 08:22 AM
I'm so happy I discovered forums soon after I opened my daycare and I've been a fan ever since. They saved me or I might not have made it in this business to become a success. I have tried a few forums I didn't like but I belong to some that I find extremely valuable as well like this one. We are so isolated working alone with tiny people that it's really nice to reach out to adults during the day who understand our special problems.

Play and Learn
07-10-2013, 09:35 PM
OMG you had a baby??? :wub::wub::wub:

How did I miss this? Congratulations!lol yup! She's getting big! And thanks :)