Sassygirl
07-25-2013, 08:34 AM
Hi everyone! I had posted previously asking for transition tips for a new 12 month old dcg who started with me July 8.
She comes 3 days a week which alternate every week based on dad's work schedule. Dad if off one rotating day per week and the other day she is with Grandma and Grandpa.
She is also here 6:45-5:30 on the days she is here which considering what I am dealing with... makes our days feel SO long.
These parents had signed on with me back in Feb. Paid a hefty deposit and holding fee to reserve her spot and in the 3 weeks she has been here there have been NO issues with payment. Parents are the nicest people.
However this dcg is a non stop ALL DAY LONG screamer. Not just little cries but unless she is being held by ME screams like she is being attacked. I have heard nothing like this before. Parents are eagerly working with me and trying all kinds of things. I have tried the playpen/highchair/exersaucer outside the playroom technique, nope still screams. I have done the slowly put her down and sit beside her on the floor edging my way away from her, nope still screams. I have tried all kinds of peekaboo games with her, reassuring her that I am here, nope still screams. She refuses to sit in the highchair to eat so has not been eating much her days here. She drinks her milk bottles but that is basically it unless we are outside in the backyard and she is sitting on my lap or directly beside me. None of this I can continue to do along with having 3 other 1 year olds PLUS my own 1 year old son. The others cry when she cries now and when I am holding her immediately want to be held as well and start misbehaving getting into things they know are off limits because they see I am busy. These other children are suffering because we are limited now on our walks because she screams in the stroller because I put her down and outside in the backyard unless I am holding her she screams which I think may have triggered my neigbour calling the City By Law people on me last week.
Friday I gave the mom 2 weeks notice saying that if there was no further improvement she may just not be ready for a group setting and may be better off with Grandma and Grandpa and can try me again in a few months if I have the space.
I also messaged mom this morning and offered up the "2 weeks straight cold turkey approach" the next 2 weeks. She can either come 2 full weeks full days or 2 full weeks of half days but either way I think she should come every day for those 2 remaining weeks.
Does anyone else have any other suggestions beside the obvious of terming her? I feel absolutely terrible because this family is really golden. They are on board with every thing I suggest, text me every day asking how she is and are willing to try my suggestions. Oh and of course, none of this happens at home or grandma/Grandpa's house. She is completely independent with them.
HELP!!!
She comes 3 days a week which alternate every week based on dad's work schedule. Dad if off one rotating day per week and the other day she is with Grandma and Grandpa.
She is also here 6:45-5:30 on the days she is here which considering what I am dealing with... makes our days feel SO long.
These parents had signed on with me back in Feb. Paid a hefty deposit and holding fee to reserve her spot and in the 3 weeks she has been here there have been NO issues with payment. Parents are the nicest people.
However this dcg is a non stop ALL DAY LONG screamer. Not just little cries but unless she is being held by ME screams like she is being attacked. I have heard nothing like this before. Parents are eagerly working with me and trying all kinds of things. I have tried the playpen/highchair/exersaucer outside the playroom technique, nope still screams. I have done the slowly put her down and sit beside her on the floor edging my way away from her, nope still screams. I have tried all kinds of peekaboo games with her, reassuring her that I am here, nope still screams. She refuses to sit in the highchair to eat so has not been eating much her days here. She drinks her milk bottles but that is basically it unless we are outside in the backyard and she is sitting on my lap or directly beside me. None of this I can continue to do along with having 3 other 1 year olds PLUS my own 1 year old son. The others cry when she cries now and when I am holding her immediately want to be held as well and start misbehaving getting into things they know are off limits because they see I am busy. These other children are suffering because we are limited now on our walks because she screams in the stroller because I put her down and outside in the backyard unless I am holding her she screams which I think may have triggered my neigbour calling the City By Law people on me last week.
Friday I gave the mom 2 weeks notice saying that if there was no further improvement she may just not be ready for a group setting and may be better off with Grandma and Grandpa and can try me again in a few months if I have the space.
I also messaged mom this morning and offered up the "2 weeks straight cold turkey approach" the next 2 weeks. She can either come 2 full weeks full days or 2 full weeks of half days but either way I think she should come every day for those 2 remaining weeks.
Does anyone else have any other suggestions beside the obvious of terming her? I feel absolutely terrible because this family is really golden. They are on board with every thing I suggest, text me every day asking how she is and are willing to try my suggestions. Oh and of course, none of this happens at home or grandma/Grandpa's house. She is completely independent with them.
HELP!!!