busydaycarelady
09-30-2013, 09:40 AM
I've looked after a girl for 2 years. She will be 4 in a couple months. She has always been quite independent for the most part. She's also always had a bit of a defiant and dramatic streak. Over the past few months her mother has bagun really prolonging drop offs saying things about how much mommy will miss you, etc until the kid is upset. I have another post all about that.
These last few weeks though, she refuses to do things she has done for a very long time such as fasten seat belt, put on coat, take off shoes. If I ask everyone to go to the bathroom before we go out she will go in the bathroom, flush the toilet and wash up, then come out and either immediately pee on the floor or have an accident on our outing. I now have to actually make sure she has in fact peed. Pretends she doesn't understand simple instructions - go to the playroom, put away your toys, sit down for lunch. She will keep saying 'what' or 'pardon' or stare blankly ahead or cry. She basically has been refusing to do simple things for herself. I refuse to remove her shoes or put on her coat. Sometimes I have to do things like buckle her up so she's safe.
She's also begun telling tall tales. Examples are saying she puked all night last night but mom and dad say no, saying she got in so much trouble last night at home again mom and dad say everyone had a great night, saying I never gave anyone lunch(which has NEVER happened), saying at various peoples house she was not permitted to eat or use the washroom.
Mom says this behavior happens at home and grandparents too. They appear to give in to it. They've told me if she wants to be spoon fed at dinner and won't eat otherwise they will comply and asked if she wants this at daycare, which she never has. If she wants her parents to sleep with her in her room or on the couch or even the floor, they'll do it.
I try to ignore this as much as possible telling her 'you're a big girl and can do it on your own' and walk away until the task is complete. If she does what I ask I'll just tell her I'm happy about it and wasn't that easy?' Mom and dad aren't too concerned but I think it's stemming from home a lot.
Thoughts on what else I can do here to help her get back up to speed? It's super irritating!
These last few weeks though, she refuses to do things she has done for a very long time such as fasten seat belt, put on coat, take off shoes. If I ask everyone to go to the bathroom before we go out she will go in the bathroom, flush the toilet and wash up, then come out and either immediately pee on the floor or have an accident on our outing. I now have to actually make sure she has in fact peed. Pretends she doesn't understand simple instructions - go to the playroom, put away your toys, sit down for lunch. She will keep saying 'what' or 'pardon' or stare blankly ahead or cry. She basically has been refusing to do simple things for herself. I refuse to remove her shoes or put on her coat. Sometimes I have to do things like buckle her up so she's safe.
She's also begun telling tall tales. Examples are saying she puked all night last night but mom and dad say no, saying she got in so much trouble last night at home again mom and dad say everyone had a great night, saying I never gave anyone lunch(which has NEVER happened), saying at various peoples house she was not permitted to eat or use the washroom.
Mom says this behavior happens at home and grandparents too. They appear to give in to it. They've told me if she wants to be spoon fed at dinner and won't eat otherwise they will comply and asked if she wants this at daycare, which she never has. If she wants her parents to sleep with her in her room or on the couch or even the floor, they'll do it.
I try to ignore this as much as possible telling her 'you're a big girl and can do it on your own' and walk away until the task is complete. If she does what I ask I'll just tell her I'm happy about it and wasn't that easy?' Mom and dad aren't too concerned but I think it's stemming from home a lot.
Thoughts on what else I can do here to help her get back up to speed? It's super irritating!