godsgirl
10-04-2013, 01:42 PM
Kay Ladies!
I need some intervention or something. Here's the down low...
3yob just started 3 weeks ago. Speech therapist says he is 1 yr behind in his communication speech and about 6 months behind in his emotional communication (like when he gets mad, sad, etc). So he literally says not a word and just grunts. He's had lots of ear infections growing up and in turn has had to get tubes in his ears. He is smart, extremely helpful, can dress himself (mostly), understands direction, an overall great kid. Buuuuuut......he has the WORST temper tantrums! And they happen at the drop of a hat. I wipe his nose BAM, I ask him to stop taking other kids toys BAM, someone touches his shoe BAM. You get the point. And they aren't like anything simple. He throws himself to the ground (forward, backwards, sideways) he has crashed into my diaper changing station, on top of toys, into a table, into a bicycle, all his limbs flail so if anyone is in the area they get to feel it too and he's covered in bruises because of it. He screams and cries and then he's done. Today he was going berserk and was kicking and was getting all the other kids so I picked him up to protect the others and the middle of my spine went 'pop'! and now I am sitting here in major pain with a heat pack. Mom says she has been dealing with them at home too and either ignores it because it happens so often lately or she puts him in his room (which is his timeout spot as well) - I have been putting him straight into his playpen but now I've messed up my back that I'm not willing to pick him up anymore. What do I do!?
I know it's easy to say 'terminate' but I don't want to terminate him just yet because 1) His surroundings are still new to him and he has never been in a day home before so this is a learning experience for him too 2) The mom is working on getting a speech therapist person which is provided through the day home licensing people that I am through to come in and work with him twice a week (kinda cool that they offer this for free) 3) Overall he is a great kid but this week has been REALLY bad 4) It has been really hard to fill this space and to be honest financially I need him (pretty crappy reason though because I hate to think of children in terms of finance)
But at the same time a couple months ago I just got rid of 2 difficult children that I stuck it out for a year for in hopes that it would get better and it didn't and now my husband is very adamant on making sure I don't put myself through that again. I'm happy that my husband protects me in this sense but at the same time I just can't give up yet.
How long does transition take? and when would you say is enough?
I kinda have a feeling that this boy has something else going on developmentally but he's going to specialists so I'm sure they would notice too (unless mom isn't saying anything which could be something too - I don't know if it's correct to ask that either). Sorry for my ramblings and thanks in advance for you help
I need some intervention or something. Here's the down low...
3yob just started 3 weeks ago. Speech therapist says he is 1 yr behind in his communication speech and about 6 months behind in his emotional communication (like when he gets mad, sad, etc). So he literally says not a word and just grunts. He's had lots of ear infections growing up and in turn has had to get tubes in his ears. He is smart, extremely helpful, can dress himself (mostly), understands direction, an overall great kid. Buuuuuut......he has the WORST temper tantrums! And they happen at the drop of a hat. I wipe his nose BAM, I ask him to stop taking other kids toys BAM, someone touches his shoe BAM. You get the point. And they aren't like anything simple. He throws himself to the ground (forward, backwards, sideways) he has crashed into my diaper changing station, on top of toys, into a table, into a bicycle, all his limbs flail so if anyone is in the area they get to feel it too and he's covered in bruises because of it. He screams and cries and then he's done. Today he was going berserk and was kicking and was getting all the other kids so I picked him up to protect the others and the middle of my spine went 'pop'! and now I am sitting here in major pain with a heat pack. Mom says she has been dealing with them at home too and either ignores it because it happens so often lately or she puts him in his room (which is his timeout spot as well) - I have been putting him straight into his playpen but now I've messed up my back that I'm not willing to pick him up anymore. What do I do!?
I know it's easy to say 'terminate' but I don't want to terminate him just yet because 1) His surroundings are still new to him and he has never been in a day home before so this is a learning experience for him too 2) The mom is working on getting a speech therapist person which is provided through the day home licensing people that I am through to come in and work with him twice a week (kinda cool that they offer this for free) 3) Overall he is a great kid but this week has been REALLY bad 4) It has been really hard to fill this space and to be honest financially I need him (pretty crappy reason though because I hate to think of children in terms of finance)
But at the same time a couple months ago I just got rid of 2 difficult children that I stuck it out for a year for in hopes that it would get better and it didn't and now my husband is very adamant on making sure I don't put myself through that again. I'm happy that my husband protects me in this sense but at the same time I just can't give up yet.
How long does transition take? and when would you say is enough?
I kinda have a feeling that this boy has something else going on developmentally but he's going to specialists so I'm sure they would notice too (unless mom isn't saying anything which could be something too - I don't know if it's correct to ask that either). Sorry for my ramblings and thanks in advance for you help