Considering Terminating My First Child *gulp*

[ttremble88]

I have a dcb whom is generally just before school (8 years old), however, I have him full days on PA days, holidays ect. But with taking him, there comes so many problems. This is where I rant.

1. He has a HUGE attitude. He is constantly back talking, contradicting me, being sarcastic, lying ect. When he is around, the entire dynamic of the daycare changes. And it has nothing to do with age. I have other older children (8, 6 ect) but they are fine.

2. I do not charge for days that the children stay home sick, for one HUGE reason. I would rather lose the daily fee then having my other daycare kids, my own 2 young boys as well as myself (being pregnant) getting sick. Most parents are very respectful of this and only keep their child home when they are indeed sick. However, this child is 'sick' once a week. I asked him about his last 'sick' day and he told me that he was not sick and that his Nanna was taking care of him.

3. I am due to have a C-section at the end of April and I am worried about the un need stress that he is going to add to the daycare.

But my real problem is coming from a business perspective. Where I live, daycare is very competitive and I find that the highest demand is for before and after school. However, this childs mom has just informed me that she is pregnant and will be pulling him come the summer, but he will be rejoining us for before school come September. Do I hold onto him and deal with him, hoping that I get the baby full time in a year from now. Or do I give him the boot?

All in all, the parents are fine. They pay on time, they do not complain ect. My hubby says, drop the child...but I am thinking more long term. I mean, in reality I need to only deal with him a couple hours in the morning before school....but darn, those morning are BRUTAL.

[mickyc]

It is a hard thing to do. I have never actually terminated a child after my initial trial period was over. That being said I have had children who I certainly wished I didn't have. The nice thing about not taking before and after school kids is eventually the kids will go off to school and good riddance lol. In this case it sounds like the mom continues to keep sending the child even after she has her baby. As time goes by I have just accepted the fact that there will always be "that" child in a group. I have never had a time where I don't have one child who I refer to as my handful. What you need to figure out is if you want to keep doing this for the next 4 years when the child turns 12. It is only going to get worse I imagine. By the sounds of your post I think you have already made up your mind and know you ultimately want to terminate. You will feel so much better, that I know. My current "handful" is no where near as terrible as my last "handful", although he has his days! Can you wait until mom pulls him for summer and then tell her come September that all spots are full?

[ttremble88]

Mickyc that is exactly what I am thinking. I will hold him out until the summer, when the mother says that she wants to pull him and then try desperately to fill that spot. I never promised to hold the spot for her and she has yet to mention care for her coming baby. I personally, do not want to terminate for income purposes. I only have 1 full timer at the moment and he will be off to school come September, so I am depending on my many part-timers (in which all are before and after school) However, our little town is going through a HUGE growth and I am hoping the demand for daycare for little ones grows by then.

[playfelt]

I have a space opening Man/June due to two moms going on mat leave over the winter. I am sort of trying my best to wait until we get the final verdict on Bill 143 as to what to do as age restrictions will for sure play a part in who I take on and when.

For sure the child needs to stay fulltime for the summer or at least pay you that and be both before and after in the fall to use a space. Otherwise you will be losing too much income to keep him on.

[Secondtimearound]

I agree !! There is always going to be one that is a handful !!! But I get where you are coming from !!!! I have one dcf that I constantly go back and forth with whether I should terminate or deal with until school finishes as well !!! My dh laughs at me because every time I start to talk about terminating I talk myself out if it !!!!