Lou
02-10-2014, 01:55 PM
I have a 3 1/2 yrs old boy that I've had in care since he was just over 1. He and my son are the same age. He has always been such a wonderful kid, but things took a very bad turn for the worse when his baby sister started in September. SHE has adapted beautifully, but something has completely snapped in this little boy and he suddenly despises MY son. To be clear, my son is no angel. He can be hyperactive, loud and excitable, and I think this might stress dcb out as well.
For the last few months, he enters the house with a scowl, looks right at my son and says "I don't want you, go away , I'm not playing with you today", then throughout the day they squabble constantly...dcb instigating most of it. All of this is manageable, but he has gotten quite aggressive. The first incident was before Christmas and quite serious. He did an unprovoked running push from behind wherein my son went sailing through the air, slammed his head into the corner of the wall and got the biggest goose egg I had ever seen. It required medical attention. Last week he (again unprovoked) close fist punched my son in the face, and today when trying to take a book out of his hands BIT my son on the mouth. His parents are NOT dismissive and cooperate and follow up with punishment at home. We have had a meeting regarding the behaviours, and it varies...one week he'll have a wonderful week and the next he'll be volatile and aggressive. Since they grew up together, I think they have more of a "sibling rivalry" relationship, then daycare friends relationship.
IF this child had a couple more years left in my care I would be cutting him loose. However, he will be finished in June. The other angle is that I do not wish to lose his little sister, who is a joy. The family IS great. But how can I expose my son to this in his own home 3-4 days/week?
How would you handle this??? Wait it out a few more months and keep them as far away from each other as possible?? Any advice (including how you would manage these behaviours!) is well appreciated!!
For the last few months, he enters the house with a scowl, looks right at my son and says "I don't want you, go away , I'm not playing with you today", then throughout the day they squabble constantly...dcb instigating most of it. All of this is manageable, but he has gotten quite aggressive. The first incident was before Christmas and quite serious. He did an unprovoked running push from behind wherein my son went sailing through the air, slammed his head into the corner of the wall and got the biggest goose egg I had ever seen. It required medical attention. Last week he (again unprovoked) close fist punched my son in the face, and today when trying to take a book out of his hands BIT my son on the mouth. His parents are NOT dismissive and cooperate and follow up with punishment at home. We have had a meeting regarding the behaviours, and it varies...one week he'll have a wonderful week and the next he'll be volatile and aggressive. Since they grew up together, I think they have more of a "sibling rivalry" relationship, then daycare friends relationship.
IF this child had a couple more years left in my care I would be cutting him loose. However, he will be finished in June. The other angle is that I do not wish to lose his little sister, who is a joy. The family IS great. But how can I expose my son to this in his own home 3-4 days/week?
How would you handle this??? Wait it out a few more months and keep them as far away from each other as possible?? Any advice (including how you would manage these behaviours!) is well appreciated!!