mamaof4
10-03-2011, 08:31 AM
I received a not from a parent expressing her frustration.
R still really needs 2 naps. He can make it on 1, but gets really tired and cranky by the end of the evening. The perfect schedule for him would probably be to go down at about 10 and then again around 2.
Babysitter doesn't want to do that. The 3 other kids there are all 3 and she puts them down after lunch at 12:30. So she wants him to go down then too. So when I ask if she can put him down for 2 naps, she'll comply by doing the first nap around 8:30 or 9:00 (he wakes up at 7:00 and gets there at 7:20) so she can still try to get him down at 12:30. He doesn't often fall asleep for the first one...I'm guessing because he isn't tired yet, even though she says he's cranky then and that's why she put him down. Then for the 12:30, he sleeps only an hour and a half or so, so he's up at 2:00. And then that's it for the rest of the day. He's supposed to stay up from 2:00 til 7:00. And he just has trouble with that.
I've tried putting him down right when he gets home, but that doesn't always help the crankiness because it's so late in the day and I also want to see my kid when we get home!
I brought it up with her today and she said that she's been trying for the morning nap, but he really needs to start getting on the other kids' schedules. I said that's all well and good, but it needs to be what's best for Ryan. (I know that many daycares make toddlers get to 1 nap, but I thought by doing an in-home, maybe we could get things more personalized.) She said yeah, yeah, but...
So later this evening I get an email detailing her schedule that was laid out in her contract. And how if he sleeps at 2:00, then it would be messing up the schedule for the rest of the kids (they are supposed to be playing outside if possible at that time). And she needs to meet the needs of the other kids as well. Great, but, it doesn't seem to be a compromise. It seems to be that we're meeting the needs of the other kids at the expense of my kid.
she goes on to say that the way the daycare lady is handling it is rubbing her the wrong way.
In addition she says
DH and I just both don't really like this woman. It's weird, when you pick him up or drop him off, she has no interest in chatting at all. I feel awkward when I stay a bit and talk...like she wants me to go. R seems to like her at least. And for right now I don't have someone else to go to. So I don't want to make her too pissed off. But I want to be heard.
My advice is basically- find a new arrangement- obviously this is not working for you. But I do not want to offend her.
thoughts?
(in my opinion, she is really high maintenance, and kind of demanding- it would take a special provider to be able to handle her)
R still really needs 2 naps. He can make it on 1, but gets really tired and cranky by the end of the evening. The perfect schedule for him would probably be to go down at about 10 and then again around 2.
Babysitter doesn't want to do that. The 3 other kids there are all 3 and she puts them down after lunch at 12:30. So she wants him to go down then too. So when I ask if she can put him down for 2 naps, she'll comply by doing the first nap around 8:30 or 9:00 (he wakes up at 7:00 and gets there at 7:20) so she can still try to get him down at 12:30. He doesn't often fall asleep for the first one...I'm guessing because he isn't tired yet, even though she says he's cranky then and that's why she put him down. Then for the 12:30, he sleeps only an hour and a half or so, so he's up at 2:00. And then that's it for the rest of the day. He's supposed to stay up from 2:00 til 7:00. And he just has trouble with that.
I've tried putting him down right when he gets home, but that doesn't always help the crankiness because it's so late in the day and I also want to see my kid when we get home!
I brought it up with her today and she said that she's been trying for the morning nap, but he really needs to start getting on the other kids' schedules. I said that's all well and good, but it needs to be what's best for Ryan. (I know that many daycares make toddlers get to 1 nap, but I thought by doing an in-home, maybe we could get things more personalized.) She said yeah, yeah, but...
So later this evening I get an email detailing her schedule that was laid out in her contract. And how if he sleeps at 2:00, then it would be messing up the schedule for the rest of the kids (they are supposed to be playing outside if possible at that time). And she needs to meet the needs of the other kids as well. Great, but, it doesn't seem to be a compromise. It seems to be that we're meeting the needs of the other kids at the expense of my kid.
she goes on to say that the way the daycare lady is handling it is rubbing her the wrong way.
In addition she says
DH and I just both don't really like this woman. It's weird, when you pick him up or drop him off, she has no interest in chatting at all. I feel awkward when I stay a bit and talk...like she wants me to go. R seems to like her at least. And for right now I don't have someone else to go to. So I don't want to make her too pissed off. But I want to be heard.
My advice is basically- find a new arrangement- obviously this is not working for you. But I do not want to offend her.
thoughts?
(in my opinion, she is really high maintenance, and kind of demanding- it would take a special provider to be able to handle her)