3rdtimesacharm
01-27-2015, 11:37 AM
Hi everyone, I am looking for some advice on how to handle a 2yr old daycare boy. He will be 3 in a couple months.
I have had him in my care for a year now. On his first day, he was running through the kitchen, I say to him "billy, we don't run in the house". He turned around a spit at me with a scowl. Blew me away. That was a year ago, he has gotten some what better but is still my number one source of frustration.
He is constantly undermining what I say. Another example: "billy, please don't step on the book. Please pick it up." He continues to scowl at me whilst still inching his toes over the book until he is stepping on it. Today a few of them were playing in a bedroom with the door closed. I go over and open the door so I can see/ hear them. He goes over and THREE times closes it just as I turn around. If I say it's time for nap, he whines and says no. If I ask him to pee before home time and nap time, he whines and says no. I need to physically place him on the toilet and he immediately pees and then smiles.
Lately his mother is letting him bring toys to daycare. (Which is my contract, no toys from home, so I will be enforcing this) The entire time he has something from home there are fights about anyone else who touches his toys. I make him share but the whole time he whines and cries, in a tantrum on the floor until he gets his turn.
I have just never encountered a child whit such back talk and constant a sense of entitlement.
His mother explains that the dad always gives into him at home because "he doesn't want to listen to the whining".
What I do in these situations of whining/crying when I state the rules or ask something of him is I have him sit in timeout until he is ready to come back and play fairly etc.
Obviously it is working wonders as I am here a year later still frustrated with this kid! He gets me so annoyed as everything is a battle with him and if he isn't getting what he wants/ when he wants it then the whole house has to listen to the feet stomping, door slamming. Even if he doesn't cry about it, he throws himself to the floor, over a chair, on a couch and whimpers.
This is my 5th doing home daycare and I don't know what else to do. Any suggestions. I'm not sure how much help parents will be as they seem to just blame each other how his behaviour is. He is often up late at night "watching movies" and often comes tired and cranky. Lucky me!
I have had him in my care for a year now. On his first day, he was running through the kitchen, I say to him "billy, we don't run in the house". He turned around a spit at me with a scowl. Blew me away. That was a year ago, he has gotten some what better but is still my number one source of frustration.
He is constantly undermining what I say. Another example: "billy, please don't step on the book. Please pick it up." He continues to scowl at me whilst still inching his toes over the book until he is stepping on it. Today a few of them were playing in a bedroom with the door closed. I go over and open the door so I can see/ hear them. He goes over and THREE times closes it just as I turn around. If I say it's time for nap, he whines and says no. If I ask him to pee before home time and nap time, he whines and says no. I need to physically place him on the toilet and he immediately pees and then smiles.
Lately his mother is letting him bring toys to daycare. (Which is my contract, no toys from home, so I will be enforcing this) The entire time he has something from home there are fights about anyone else who touches his toys. I make him share but the whole time he whines and cries, in a tantrum on the floor until he gets his turn.
I have just never encountered a child whit such back talk and constant a sense of entitlement.
His mother explains that the dad always gives into him at home because "he doesn't want to listen to the whining".
What I do in these situations of whining/crying when I state the rules or ask something of him is I have him sit in timeout until he is ready to come back and play fairly etc.
Obviously it is working wonders as I am here a year later still frustrated with this kid! He gets me so annoyed as everything is a battle with him and if he isn't getting what he wants/ when he wants it then the whole house has to listen to the feet stomping, door slamming. Even if he doesn't cry about it, he throws himself to the floor, over a chair, on a couch and whimpers.
This is my 5th doing home daycare and I don't know what else to do. Any suggestions. I'm not sure how much help parents will be as they seem to just blame each other how his behaviour is. He is often up late at night "watching movies" and often comes tired and cranky. Lucky me!