mamaof4
06-17-2015, 09:08 AM
Anonymous post for member
I just cared for a client's child for an entire weekend since Friday 8am to Sunday evening...bath times routines, snacks, breakfasts, lunches, dinners, nap times routines, potty training, bedtime stories, getting the child dressed for their parent's wedding, caring for this child for the entire wedding day till 11:30 pm! and than the next day...you name it, I did. I offered this because firstly, I love this child like my own. I did this for free! I never even "expected" anything in return at all. But that all seemed to change when this child's parent's made it a point to mention every person under the moon during their public speech of "thank you's" including those they "paid" services for! i.e.; photographer, limo provider, caterer, dj, florist, family members, cousins, etc...every one under the sun except the one person who is loving and nurturing their most precious person in their lives! Ok...so I didn't make it on the list, so be it and forget it. So I did. But than the mother Sunday goes on and on about the generous gifts of thanks she got everyone! And I mean everyone including people she "paid" already money for their services! Let's just say I feel so incredibly hurt and unappreciated. Did she say "thank you"...yes, but when you're going to brag about how you went over and above to thank others...well that just hurts! Recently it was my birthday (and knowing I was going to care for her child for an entire weekend for free..I didn't even get a "happy birthday"...nothing)
I once cared for her child again for free on a weekend to allow her to go to a party and again...I see her generously showering others with appreciation gifts and nothing for me. I even spent $60 on gifts for her child so that they wouldn't feel left out during the gift opening. Did I do it for the child? Yes. And my love for this child. Would I offer again if I could do it over? Yes, without a doubt because I knew no one would care for this child during this wedding but rather just let this little one eat whatever, whenever and skip naps, etc..
I guess I'm just wanting to vent and get it out of my system. No one would understand truly how I feel unless you work in this career. I'm just tired of my clients taking me for granted when I go over and above on a daily basis, nurturing, educating, potty training, ...being their daytime mommy with all my heart <3 to not be acknowledged even on my birthday by 4 out of 5 clients. I don't even get added to the birthday list invite when their child has a birthday with their family but yet the other client's parents all do. I think I just feel so emotionally drained after 10 yrs of giving and getting nothing in return except for a pay check at the end of the month. They treat their mailman with more appreciation than the person who loves and nurtures their child!
I just cared for a client's child for an entire weekend since Friday 8am to Sunday evening...bath times routines, snacks, breakfasts, lunches, dinners, nap times routines, potty training, bedtime stories, getting the child dressed for their parent's wedding, caring for this child for the entire wedding day till 11:30 pm! and than the next day...you name it, I did. I offered this because firstly, I love this child like my own. I did this for free! I never even "expected" anything in return at all. But that all seemed to change when this child's parent's made it a point to mention every person under the moon during their public speech of "thank you's" including those they "paid" services for! i.e.; photographer, limo provider, caterer, dj, florist, family members, cousins, etc...every one under the sun except the one person who is loving and nurturing their most precious person in their lives! Ok...so I didn't make it on the list, so be it and forget it. So I did. But than the mother Sunday goes on and on about the generous gifts of thanks she got everyone! And I mean everyone including people she "paid" already money for their services! Let's just say I feel so incredibly hurt and unappreciated. Did she say "thank you"...yes, but when you're going to brag about how you went over and above to thank others...well that just hurts! Recently it was my birthday (and knowing I was going to care for her child for an entire weekend for free..I didn't even get a "happy birthday"...nothing)
I once cared for her child again for free on a weekend to allow her to go to a party and again...I see her generously showering others with appreciation gifts and nothing for me. I even spent $60 on gifts for her child so that they wouldn't feel left out during the gift opening. Did I do it for the child? Yes. And my love for this child. Would I offer again if I could do it over? Yes, without a doubt because I knew no one would care for this child during this wedding but rather just let this little one eat whatever, whenever and skip naps, etc..
I guess I'm just wanting to vent and get it out of my system. No one would understand truly how I feel unless you work in this career. I'm just tired of my clients taking me for granted when I go over and above on a daily basis, nurturing, educating, potty training, ...being their daytime mommy with all my heart <3 to not be acknowledged even on my birthday by 4 out of 5 clients. I don't even get added to the birthday list invite when their child has a birthday with their family but yet the other client's parents all do. I think I just feel so emotionally drained after 10 yrs of giving and getting nothing in return except for a pay check at the end of the month. They treat their mailman with more appreciation than the person who loves and nurtures their child!