Dawn2Dusk
11-10-2015, 02:31 PM
Sorry ladies but you are the only ones who understand what I'm going threw here and always give the best advice so here is my rant for the day!
I have this family in my dayhome who have a 3 year old boy and a 12 month old who will be starting with me in January. They really are such nice people but I am getting way to frustrated with them. First there little boy is my oldest full time child but acts younger than my 18 month old. It's clear his parents REALLY baby him. He came to me from another day home and I don't under stand how he knows nothing. He is not good with a fork or spoons and is unable to use any cup that isn't a sippy cup. He is in the process of potty training which isn't going to bad I have to remind him a lot to go but not to many accidents. He won't even attempt to pull up or take off his underwear or pants. I had a huge struggle with him for a couple weeks now because he refused to put on or take off his shoes or jacket. Every time I tell him to he cries and says I can't but doesn't even actually try. When I pointed this out to the parents they said well we will work on it at home but I can tell they aren't trying because every Monday it starts all over again.
Now my first problem is I feel like I care about this little boy more than his parents and past care provider because I'm the only one who is actually helping him. It would be so much easier to just do it for him but he is three and these are things he needs to know for preschool, kindergarten and just life. His mom asked me to teach him his last name and address so i made him a somg but the parents arent rrying at home so i have yet to get him to say his last name. He has fun when he is here but makes a big fuss in the morning because he knows I'm going to make him do these things. I can tell his mom is frustrated but again I feel it is her making it hard by not also encouraging him.
I am starting to think maybe there is a bigger problem here as he is very clumsy, mumbles most of the time and is way behind all my two year olds. However I don't think it's my place to say anything.
Yesterday the mom asked me to take the little boy for remembrance day which I should have said no because he will be my only child. Her husband is away so she is taking care of her two children alone and says she can't handle it...... her child comes to me full time and she is on maternity leave...... I know I shouldn't judge but seriously?
She is obviously overwhelmed which explains why she isn't trying to teach The little boy these things and also explains why he comes to dayhome with a cookie at least once a week ( 700am and she says he cried if she doesn't give it to him...)
Are my expectations to high? I just don't think it is my job to parent this boy, there should be work on both sides. How will I ever teach him to do anything when his parents give in to his every cry?
I have this family in my dayhome who have a 3 year old boy and a 12 month old who will be starting with me in January. They really are such nice people but I am getting way to frustrated with them. First there little boy is my oldest full time child but acts younger than my 18 month old. It's clear his parents REALLY baby him. He came to me from another day home and I don't under stand how he knows nothing. He is not good with a fork or spoons and is unable to use any cup that isn't a sippy cup. He is in the process of potty training which isn't going to bad I have to remind him a lot to go but not to many accidents. He won't even attempt to pull up or take off his underwear or pants. I had a huge struggle with him for a couple weeks now because he refused to put on or take off his shoes or jacket. Every time I tell him to he cries and says I can't but doesn't even actually try. When I pointed this out to the parents they said well we will work on it at home but I can tell they aren't trying because every Monday it starts all over again.
Now my first problem is I feel like I care about this little boy more than his parents and past care provider because I'm the only one who is actually helping him. It would be so much easier to just do it for him but he is three and these are things he needs to know for preschool, kindergarten and just life. His mom asked me to teach him his last name and address so i made him a somg but the parents arent rrying at home so i have yet to get him to say his last name. He has fun when he is here but makes a big fuss in the morning because he knows I'm going to make him do these things. I can tell his mom is frustrated but again I feel it is her making it hard by not also encouraging him.
I am starting to think maybe there is a bigger problem here as he is very clumsy, mumbles most of the time and is way behind all my two year olds. However I don't think it's my place to say anything.
Yesterday the mom asked me to take the little boy for remembrance day which I should have said no because he will be my only child. Her husband is away so she is taking care of her two children alone and says she can't handle it...... her child comes to me full time and she is on maternity leave...... I know I shouldn't judge but seriously?
She is obviously overwhelmed which explains why she isn't trying to teach The little boy these things and also explains why he comes to dayhome with a cookie at least once a week ( 700am and she says he cried if she doesn't give it to him...)
Are my expectations to high? I just don't think it is my job to parent this boy, there should be work on both sides. How will I ever teach him to do anything when his parents give in to his every cry?