In-Laws

[5 Little Monkeys]

Alright, this has nothing to do with daycare but I can't vent on the other forum I'm part of as too many know who I am lol

Do you have Inlaws that drive you crazy?? My MIL had her 2nd stroke last March and has had issues ever since. She is getting worse over time and they think she's had a 3rd just recently. This of course is stressful for everyone, especially my FIL. However, he's just becoming harder and harder to be around as he's cranky and takes it out on people he shouldn't be. It's embarrassing when we need to take her to the hospital as he's so rude to the nurses and doctor and I feel like I'm constantly apologizing for his behaviour. My SIL is stressed out and starting to act like him too. She got rude with my husband last night which pissed me off because he never is rude to his family (even when he has the right to be! Lol) I stay out of it as much as I can but I'm about ready to unleash on them!!! I'm already thinking I just want to hide this Christmas and say F it!

Thanks for letting me vent....I feel a bit better just typing that and getting out there haha

[MommaL]

Are we related?? This honestly sounds exactly like my in-laws. Though while my MIL is ill, we can't really blame that on the behavior of my FIL and SIL, since they've always been hard to deal with. However, it certainly makes things worse. I am embarrassed when I'm with them around other people and try to avoid it as much as I can. My husband is used to it, but I feel so bad for him because he puts up with a lot.

So yes, my in-laws drive me crazy! LOL.

[superfun]

I'm sorry your inlaws are being stressful. I've got no advice at all. However, we are running away this Christmas to avoid all our family drama. So I say go for it!

[Van]

Yes it is good to vent - sound like a stressful time when MIL is sick, it would be a great idea to get away but if you can't just keep the visits short - sorry but my in laws were in Germany so just a quick call and all was fine for us :)

[Suzie_Homemaker]

I not have any advice. I can sympathise. Family can be tricky with mix of not liking way someone behave but loyalty because they family.

For me, I was very lucky with my inlaws. They very kind to me. I miss them very much.

[torontokids]

I can sympathize! I have your MIL! She is actually undergoing chemotherapy at the moment and so her behaviour is just amplified at the moment. She is unfortunately like having another child at time. So dependent and incapable of figuring out the most minor things. She also has no one except us as she and my FIL split long ago and that's a whole other kettle of fish!

[5 Little Monkeys]

I'm sorry to hear others are in same boat but glad I'm not alone!! ;)

My husband always says how much he prefers being around my family but they are about 2.5 hours from us and his are 4 blocks away so we see them more often! His sister is just 2 blocks away....ugh, all too close for my liking!! Lol

I would love if just us 2 went away for Christmas but than we'd miss out on my family get together and we couldn't just go to one and not the other. Both sides would probably think we're being selfish and would be hurt as well. If his family keeps this behaviour up though, I might reconsider!!!

I actually think dementia is setting in for his mom but his dad is just a crank pot and has no excuse for his behaviour!! His parents should have divorced years ago but never did. His dad has led a pretty sweet life for the past 15-ish years and did and went as he wanted. Now that he has to stay home and tend to his wife (she needs 24/7 care but they also have home care) he is depressed I think.

They seriously drive me crazy!! Haha

[jodaycare]

My in laws drive me nuts too, especially my one sister inlaw. She is 5 years younger than me and thinks that she knows everything about everything, including raising children! My daughter is 22 and her boys are 10 and 8, I think I have a little bit more experience than her! We had a few issues with my daughter when she was a young teen and according to all of Hubby's family we were to blame! The whole family drives me nuts and I am really uncomfortable around them, and I have been with my husband for almost 30 years! Since ny FIL passed away 10 years ago, things have gotten much more tense within the family.

[sandylynn]

Oh My! I won the LOTTERY....when it comes to mother-in-laws. She used to say 'I DON'T KNOW HOW YOU LIVE WITH MY SON"!!!! Hands down...the most wonderful MIL I could have ever dreamed of having for 34 years. We lost her this past July and I miss her terribly :(

[5 Little Monkeys]

I'm glad to hear that sandylynn! It's not often we hear about the good Inlaws lol.

My mil is coming home on Monday and I'm again dreading the new behaviour that both will most certainly have. To be fair, she was a good mil before this all happened (there were things that annoyed me but in the grand scheme of things, nothing major) It's my FIL that I don't particular enjoy. Sigh...oh well. Things could definitely be worse!!

[fivelittleones]

lol, okay guys, you wanna talk about in laws! I live with my MIL and my mother, plus our three children, 2 dogs, 1 cat, of course the husband and run a daycare in the midst of all that! Hope that makes you all feel better ;) Sometimes, I really don't know how I've handled it this far. haha! There are those days though, ughhh. :(

[fivelittleones]

oh, forgot to mention....the MIL actually works from home and my mother is on disability, so she is also at home all day! There, I feel a little better knowing the expression that will be on some of your faces right now lol :laugh:

[5 Little Monkeys]

Why? Just why?? Lol.

My grandparents lived with my aunt, her husband, 4 children and the in laws were on the same property. I don't know how they did it!!! Lol. Couldn't imagine all being home at same time 24/7!

Funny this thread popped back up today as my FIL pissed me off again! Yesterday my husband spent all morning with him looking at a wheelchair accessible van so that his mom can get outta the house. My husband got the seller down to an amazing price. He didn't buy it though!!!! My husband has finally had enough though and said he's not wasting anymore of his time as my FIL will likely never buy a van (cuz than he knows my mil will ask to go out and he doesn't want to do that)

I'm going to hell but I said I can't wait until he is in a wheelchair and asks to go out...nope, sorry!! You're not going anywhere ;)

[Van]

They need to move to a sunny spot and less stress for you guys LOL

[daycaremom9]

OMG, that would definitely be up there with my worst nightmare!

[daycaremom9]

Speaking of in-laws, mine are supposed to be coming and staying for a couple of weeks in the summer. They told my husband that they would like to have a vehicle available for them while they're here. I believe that they're referring to mine as it's usually parked in the driveway during the day unless the kids and I are on a field trip. They have been living in Mexico and their car is starting to look like that. It has quite a few dents so I really don't want them driving my car. They can be overwhelming and pushy at times.

Just curious if you've had family come and stay with you for any period of time, were you required to get a criminal record check? It might be a little difficult to do from Mexico!lol

[Redhead]

My parents stayed with us (from Europe) for a couple of weeks and obviously they did not have police checks, nor did I request they bring one with them from home. I explained to my families ahead of time that my parents were coming and I hadn't seen them for 18 months. TBH if they had complained and been difficult I would have found grounds to terminate their care as seeing my parents was so important to me and my children. Unfortunately I had taken on a new 12mnth old just before they arrived otherwise I would have taken holiday so we could spend more time together.
I made sure that I introduced all the parents to my parents and the dc parents were really sad when my parents had to go home. Luckily, they now have a contact to stay with in Europe so they were happy with that!

[5 Little Monkeys]

I can't see many requesting a criminal record cheque but I guess it's a possibility?? I would just tell them they are your guests and won't be getting one done (if they even ask). I highly doubt anyone would leave because of it.

On a side note, I'd start saving now and my gift to them would be a hotel room ;) he he

[daycaremom9]

My MIL was really sick last spring, basically on her death bed (or so we thought). So we went to visit and my father-in-law had arranged for us to stay at one of their friend'so condo (they went back home for the summer). So I feel that I owe them a place to stay. I was more referring about getting a criminal record in case my licensing officer shows up when they are here.

[Van]

Hi Daycaremom9, if you are in BC it is required by Licensing and it costs $20 for each person over 18 years old staying at the house and you can do it at the lic office and pay by credit card, but if your MIL is still too sick I am sure your Lic officer would understand or you could say they just arrived and you will arrange it when your MIL is a little better - Goodluck