crafty
06-08-2016, 09:33 AM
Okay so I need your help and advice ladies,
I have a little boy with me now for 3 full months he's now 19 months old. When he first started he had huge issues with hitting. He would hit for any reason to try to make other kids laugh, to play to express anger , he would slap himself to make other kids laugh and slap himself repeatedly in the face when he himself was mad or angry at something. It was omnipresent in his daily life . His parent said that he seemed to have learned this behavior form the old daycare provider's child. Anyways ...with lots of work it has gotten better. He's not slapping himself as much when he's unhappy, he doesn't slap others as a game or any other way expect for when he's very angry but it happens way less.
But what I'm seeing now is so much ANGER... I've never seen a child this young express anger in such a way. He gets so mad if someone plays with a toy he wants or take a toy away form him, if a child goes near his mom, if he falls sometimes... He has these anger fits that are just plain scary. He will cringe his teeth, close his fist and his entire body shakes, he screeches his head off and will either kick or slap. Sometimes I worry he'll throw himself too hard on the floor and hurt his head. I my opinion it's been going on to long and I don't know what to do to help him anymore. I've not been giving in to his fits, I let him calm down and remove toy or himself if it poses a danger for the other kids or himself, I speak to him calmly and tell him he's frustrated but needs to calm down to ask, sometimes I will hold his hand and say No hitting, we play games that keep us learn how to take turns and wait, ask nicely or find another toy.... I'm just not seeing the progress I think I should be. Of course he has better days than others and I do let the parents know about it as well. They say he's getting better at home but when I see the mom pick up he hits her almost right away and I don't see much intervention. So I don't know what to think I don't know what to do but I'm just afraid as he's going to get older he's going to get stronger and actually really hurt himself or someone.
Anybody been trough this with a child and how did you get results ?
I have a little boy with me now for 3 full months he's now 19 months old. When he first started he had huge issues with hitting. He would hit for any reason to try to make other kids laugh, to play to express anger , he would slap himself to make other kids laugh and slap himself repeatedly in the face when he himself was mad or angry at something. It was omnipresent in his daily life . His parent said that he seemed to have learned this behavior form the old daycare provider's child. Anyways ...with lots of work it has gotten better. He's not slapping himself as much when he's unhappy, he doesn't slap others as a game or any other way expect for when he's very angry but it happens way less.
But what I'm seeing now is so much ANGER... I've never seen a child this young express anger in such a way. He gets so mad if someone plays with a toy he wants or take a toy away form him, if a child goes near his mom, if he falls sometimes... He has these anger fits that are just plain scary. He will cringe his teeth, close his fist and his entire body shakes, he screeches his head off and will either kick or slap. Sometimes I worry he'll throw himself too hard on the floor and hurt his head. I my opinion it's been going on to long and I don't know what to do to help him anymore. I've not been giving in to his fits, I let him calm down and remove toy or himself if it poses a danger for the other kids or himself, I speak to him calmly and tell him he's frustrated but needs to calm down to ask, sometimes I will hold his hand and say No hitting, we play games that keep us learn how to take turns and wait, ask nicely or find another toy.... I'm just not seeing the progress I think I should be. Of course he has better days than others and I do let the parents know about it as well. They say he's getting better at home but when I see the mom pick up he hits her almost right away and I don't see much intervention. So I don't know what to think I don't know what to do but I'm just afraid as he's going to get older he's going to get stronger and actually really hurt himself or someone.
Anybody been trough this with a child and how did you get results ?