Oh my god!!! :(

Okay so I am having the WORST week I have ever had and thank god it's a short one. I found something VERY disturbing in my bathroom and I just need to rant.

I allow parents to us my washroom and to be completely honest it's really been grossing me out lately. I live in a condo now and I can hear parents using the bathroom, flushing and then opening my door??? THEY NEVER WASH THEIR HANDS.

So after they leave i have to disinfect the toilet, light switch, door knobs etc. and in the same breath my bathroom is not a public one and I don't think parents should have access to it as i only have one.

So earlier today I went through my "feminine" product and found wrappers from tampons lol and if that wasn't bad enough they put the used tampon dispenser part BACK in the wrapper and threw it under my sink!!!! Everyone uses my bathroom so I don't even know who it might have been!

I did almost pass out when I saw this and I find it so rude and disrespectful and just plain dirty! I also have a parent who made my toilet over flow 2 already and it's just turning into a head ache so I had to call management to fix it because the plunger wasn't working!

Umm ewwwwww.
Do you have a garbage can in the bathroom? I cannot for the life of me figure out why they would leave it under the sink. I mean, even if you had no garbage can in there then wouldn't they stick it in a pocket or purse to throw out somewhere? ewwwww.

Why are so many parents using your bathroom? Are you a really far drive from their houses/their work places?

Perhaps it is time to send home a letter noting that with the numerous times you have had to call management to fix the plugged toilets and the findings from under your sink you will now need to refuse use of the bathroom for parents? It's time they start using their own bathrooms and holding it to wait till they are at work!

yep I have a garbage can in my bathroom right beside my toilet. But my guess is since they used my tampons (I only had 3 in my box) they were probably too embarrassed to ask and my garbage can was empty so I guess they would have figured that I would find out who was going though my stuff!
The specific parent who I THINK it is (and uses the bathroom almost daily) lives 10 minutes away. She tells me sometimes she'll use the McDonalds bathroom which is right across the street from me. She goes there daily anyway to buy a snack for her kid. The rest of the parents have used it once or twice but when you have 5 sets of families, it adds up.

I would say....sorry, due to the toilet always getting backed up and finding some uncleanliness items under the sink I will have to ask you to please use the public washroom across the street in the restaurant. Unfortunately my toilet can not keep up with multiple uses. Thank you.

Sooooo...being embarrassed to have used your tampons she thinks it wiser to return the dirty used parts under your sink than to put it in the trash? ewwwww I suppose there is always a chance you also put your used tampon covers under the sink too so it wouldn't go unnoticed lol. Sigh. Does your bathroom door lock? I would be tempted to just lock it in the morning then once all kids have arrived use a coat hanger to unlock it through the doorknob hole lol. Of course, you'd have to do that forever so easier just to tell them to go across the street.

That is so odd....and incredibly gross!

I only have 4 here at a time but usually 5 families enrolled at any given time and over the past 4 years my toilet has been used 3x by parents!! I would definitely send out a letter saying that your washroom is no longer to be used except for their children. If they can't clean up after themselves than that privilege is no longer allowed...plain and simple!

No it doesn't lock but they never just walk in they always ask and I feel bad for saying no but it's getting to the point where everyone is using the bathroom almost everyday and it's also getting a little unsanitary!!!! She actually tried to hide it in a garbage bag under my sink lol so when I was organizing under my sink I found it lol just eww

people ALWAYS use my bathroom lol and I really don't want to be rude by not allowing them to use my bathroom but it's just gross now. I had a family who would bring their school aged daughter to pick up their 2 yr old son and would ask me if she could use the bathroom but they lived up the street lol I said yes because I didn't want ot be rude

IMO you only have 2 choices...

1. Allow them to use it and continue to clean up after them as they seem to use it like a public washroom (which I find so disrespectful towards you...I'm fairly confident NONE of my parents would do this to me!)

2. Put a stop to it now. They are the ones being rude, not you! Of course, emergency washroom trips happen and I'd allow it those times but every day??? Absolutely not!

My bathroom been used maybe 3 times in all years I do this - and then it was pregnant Momma and she ask.

I would put stop to it.

Place notice saying that due to the high number of requests to use bathroom, the endless cleaning is too much and you will kindly deny all future request.

My bathroom was used 3 times in 13 years so I would say sorry for hygiene reasons I can only allow the children to use the daycare bathroom
it is also annoying that they used your fem items

I wondered about the bathroom thing for awhile now. I know there was a post and many said they allowed parents to use but no one specified how often it was used so I assumed everyone was using the bath room regularly. Surprisingly no one has used it this week which makes it easier to give out a letter on Monday morning. How should I word it to include it being gross, toilet overflowing and the garbage I found under the sink.

I also wanted to make sure I wasn't being rude by not allowing people to use it but jeeze louise I don't think it's fair that I get PSD when ever I open up my bathroom cupboard!!

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Originally Posted by ottawamommy

I wondered about the bathroom thing for awhile now. I know there was a post and many said they allowed parents to use but no one specified how often it was used so I assumed everyone was using the bath room regularly. Surprisingly no one has used it this week which makes it easier to give out a letter on Monday morning. How should I word it to include it being gross, toilet overflowing and the garbage I found under the sink.

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My bathroom is definitely open for them to use but other than those 3 times, (is it weird that I remember who they were lol), they don't use it. There's no need for them to use it really. They can go at work or at home. Twice was a mom who drives the longest (about 20 mins so not even that long and once she was pregnant) and once a mom and her school aged child used it.

If they were using it like yours though, I'd send home a letter too! I don't think youre the one being rude at all!!

I'd say, "due to recent findings in my washroom, multiple service calls for the toilet to be fixed and constant disinfecting, my washroom will now ONLY be available to the children during daycare hours. Should you or your older children need a washroom, there is a restaurant across the street. Sorry for the inconvenience but I thank you in advance for understanding the predicament I am in"

Since they all use it, I can't see any of them asking for details as they'll be scared it's directed at them. I'd assume they all read it and move on as they may feel awkward.....but oh well!!

I'd say, "due to recent findings in my washroom, multiple service calls for the toilet to be fixed and constant disinfecting, my washroom will now ONLY be available to the children during daycare hours. Should you or your older children need a washroom, there is a restaurant across the street. Sorry for the inconvenience but I thank you in advance for understanding the predicament I am in"

I like that wording. I'd say the same :)

thank you thank you thank you!!!!! Believe it or not I'm more nervous to give out this letter then my letter that stated the rate increase lol on top of that it takes too long for them to leave at pick up!

I would go as far as to say "findings in the cabinet under my sink" so the other families realize you didn't just find poop in the toilet and get annoyed! It would point out that your personal space has been violated completely.