Parent thinks she is entitled to make and break day care rules

Hi all,
I need some advise from you and what do you think about the importance of communication and consultation between the parent and a provider..

I have a dc parent who just one day decided to bring her child(who I potty train for some time,but still does accidents in her pull up) wearing panties,without consulting me before that and not asking what I would think about it...Since she is coming into my home making accidents over the floor would not be acceptable..
I think I was supposed to be consulted about parents ideas and wishes before she decided to make such a big dissision on her own.

Please tell me what you think about this.
Thank you:)

Every provider has their own potty training preferences, and it should be specifically outlined in your contract, so I’m not sure what your contract specifies.
My policy is 2 weeks of consecutive daycare days with no accidents in pull-ups before underwear is allowed. Then 1 month of consecutive days of dry pull-ups before underwear at nap time.
I’ve had parents tell me their kids were ready, and then the accidents continued for many months, so they weren’t ready for group care toilet training, but maybe could do it at home with parents.
Just make it clear what the guidelines are, and ask for pull-ups if necessary. Your program, your rules ....

Yes Busy ECE Mommy,It should be like that,but unfortunately some parents think they can do whatever they please for they pay us...Interesting fact!
I do have a contract and also I try to talk,but some people are acting very confident and try to bend the rules as much as possible.
It is In my contract and I say during the interview(but some tend to forget that later on) is just that...all the kids are different and when I see they can hold for a longer period of time and have dry diapers I will be ok to take the diaper off and put on the underwear.
I had situations where I agreed to previously mentioned and a child would pee all over the carpet where we have a play area...After all this is my and my families home,we need to stay here and smell everything after the children go home.I just don’t get how can some people be so inconsiderate.
But that all would be fine,I can manage that,the problem is that the parent did not find it important to consult with me first about her decision:no:

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Originally Posted by Rose1

Hi all,
I need some advise from you and what do you think about the importance of communication and consultation between the parent and a provider..) Please tell me what you think about this.

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I would be sitting down with this client, and having a conversation.

It doesn't matter if it's your potty training policy, the sickness policy or anything else. There are policies that are created to suit a day care environment, and this parent is acting like you are a baby sitter in her home. That's not okay.

From the heading of your post, I suspect that this isn't the first time you feel that she's over stepped.

I'd tell her straight that the potty training process needs both of you working together with advance communication. After all, for all she knew, you had planned to start someone else's child on potty training this week. Explain to her that in your house, with several children, it's not acceptable to be in real underwear due to the hygiene issue and that until her child reaches a certain point where you feel she's ready, she is required to wear a pull up.

I'd also make her aware that some of your policies are driven by the department and therefore it's key that she communicates with you before making changes which affect the whole group.

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Originally Posted by Rose1

some parents think they can do whatever they please for they pay us...
I do have a contract and also I try to talk,but some people are acting very confident and try to bend the rules as much as possible..I just don’t get how can some people be so inconsiderate.
But that all would be fine,I can manage that,the problem is that the parent did not find it important to consult with me first about her decision:no:

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You are right - some parents think that because they are paying for child care, they are the ones setting the rules with regards to their child's care. And you are also right that it's inconsiderate.

However, while some parents are inconsiderate, others just don't think it through and see the situation from the provider's side. Communication is key but what is even more important, is enforcing your policies in a timely manner.

Basically, your policies are your boundaries and if you don't enforce them promptly when breached, then a client has no reason to expect any of their contracted terms to be firm.

Thank you Susie_Homemaker,you are absolutely right! I am trying to implement these rules and policies and it works with everybody,but with her.This is a parent who has been with me for the last two years,and yes,I had complaining previously about her and her trying to break the rules and boundaries...But,bec ause of the circumstances I could not just let her go and all the issues were just gone for a moment,I knew something will eventually come up again with her,because of her bossy and intrusive character..And it did,but this time it is finally over!! I gave her termination notice and we are done! Those last two years caused me so much stress,our job is hard enough and yet we need to deal with parents issues too,I mean what is enough is enough!
And I need to add this too...The little girl,pooped in her underwear the same day,when she came to pick her up,the girl said”mommy I pooped in my panties”..the dcm just replied to it”that is ok,we all make accidents”☹️ Not even said ,,ahh sorry about that! I am sooo glad that she is gone,I can’t describe it!