WWYD? Mom Doesn’t Want Sunscreen

[Peacefulbird]

Oneandonly,

Thanks for all your explanation, now I can see it from your point of view.

You have gotten some ideas and possible solutions to your situation. You can choose and decide what best suits to your situation, you're right the field of childcare do not only demands providing the basic needs for a child but also the heartship and emotionally involvement for the welll-being of each child and their families.

With my experience I can tell you that you'll encounter many challenges, different families different believes and philosophies. I wish I could be certain and tell you that "choosing the perfect families" is a solution or writting a thight 50 or more pages contract will protect you from all this it might help to some extent but not 100%.

I had to face the idea that no one in this world was born ready to be a perfect parent, many of us have learned with our first child, some lucky of us had the support of close relatives to guide us. But, as the society and generations keep changing families rely on us for our "experience".

I had parents that admitted that they can be the best professionals in their fields but parenting was their greatest challenge. Many have admitted that bringing their children to my care made them feel safe because now they had an experienced woman that will guide them and support them and even if they had experience (because many were older siblings or for circumstances of their life had raised kids earlier in their lives), they felt that their child will be well cared and they knew why. No I won't say I'm a guru in this field, and I keep telling parents that I'm basically here also to learn from them and to support each other for the well-being of our future generation.

I had to make big decisions while following this path, many times I had to question myself and became aware of my limitations and the potential lives I can touch.

Humans are complex, parenting is complex to cater for all their needs is complicated but a single smile of a child can make fade all the complexity of the world we have created.

More than ever now we have also to face and be aware of many challenges and mental issues keeps increasing (stress and depression mainly) it is not shown as my limited knowledge dictates (phisically seen someone acting different). No, mental issues are very well hidden.

It all came to a point to question and ask myself what would make my job go smooth and enjoyable, obviously creating a world full of plastic toys or only means of entertainment for children would not do it. So I analized what and how these families needed my support, I'm very aware of what can be possible but also what can reach my limit.

I fortunately have the situation to choose to stay or also go or move on from this field. Many don't, childcare represents the means of their live hood, and I only share what has been working successfuly for me. I've chosen NOT to give power to others and dictate my daily emotional stability (because my group of children deserve the best of me). I choose ME first and as every good professional does by choosing the right tools to do their work, I did choose the tools that best supported my commitment in this field, therefore I always try to suggest solutions rather than empowering negativity and resentment against each other. If a situation has reached your limit then without regrets it is time to admit it and let go (because I see you have done everything possible and this situation is affecting you emotionally)

Charging low rates as you mentioned in your area plays a Double role, one that attracts families that aren't looking for quality but a cheap place or a desesperate woman that will accept anything, therefore test your limits and two you're letting a low rate dictate the quality of service you provide.

So far as I can see your services reflect "excellence" then try to reflect that in your rates, you will see on how families will notice and figure it out. "Quality and excellence " comes with a price and only families that value that will join your group.