New Babied DCG Not a Good Fit?

[Craftymama1]

One&only,

I was about to shut and stay quiet but, I had to speak up because your situation and that little girl makes me feel sad.

I understand that we need to do a living and we look for jobs that suit best our needs. "Every job comes with challenges". The childcare field is stressful you have to deal in a daily basis with the public but not only that, also as complicated human beings are, your job will demand to understand and guide them. At times its not enough to tell or say. It basically will demand from you to actually think and act proactively in every step.

Clearly, the little girl is going through an attachment stage (which is absolutely normal at her age), she just started and this will persist until she feels secure with you and slowly let the objects that brings her security go.

I believe it is not the child's fault to have been changed from one daycare to another, you do not have any precedent to determine or judge if the other provider allowed this or not, maybe the child felt fear starting in a new environment and her blanket only represents her security.

In general the bottles at your place or at home or at the other daycare, doesn't really matter. What counts now is that you have taken her in your care. My question is what are your goals with this child from now on?

You must understand that not all children come with rules and schedules set and ready to move forward, children are more complex to undetstand, a developING brain is complicated. I continuously keep reading and guiding parents "no body is perfect" neither do I, we all learn and guide to each other.

To my understanding and this is how I guide my business "a home daycare" resembles and operates most likely like being at HOME, many parents in my area have expensive daycares to choose from they're absolutely beautiful and have profesionales working in them but parents choose "homedaycares"; because it resembles to "home for their child" this also means in my view "love, flexibility, understanding, guidance, support, nurturing, patience, and so on" and that's what basically I make sure my space reflects.

Many would probably argue that my perception of "homedaycare" is wrong, but this is what has kept my spots filled and a waiting list. Parents see that, parents value that. And that doesn't mean that my place is a chaos where everyone does whatever they feel like, or I would do anything to keep a client etc. No, it actually it is the opposite. As soon as they get in the group, the group (parents) start supporting. I do my job the best I can and they appreciate that. They value all the knowledge you have.

It was addressed as "passive-aggressive " behavior when the parent of the little girl placed her on your couch with a bottle.

If your furniture is off limits then I believe you should focus on thinking where is the spot or place "childfriendly" for a parent to do a drop off. Think and place things in that space that will actually make easy for a parent to leave their child or cover to protect your couch.

To be honest, it would probably be easy to take the bottle and blanket in your view and also mine BUT, then you'll have to deal with a distressed and screaming child your days will get longer and rough. Try to be flexible and you will se on how that child moves on (make your days easy don't stress yourself).

If this is too much and disturbs your well-being then perhaps it is better to think in changing work fields. Because in the childcare field you'll meet many kinds of families some kids settle easy and some not(no one is perfect) Recognizing your limits and strengths is good and that allows you to broaden your view and perhaps find other job or work options that alines best with your view and expectations. It is your life and it is up to you, you have the choise and freedom.

What a beautiful & loving response! I totally agree with this.