When your own child bites

[mom-in-alberta]

Hear, hear ladies.....
PS: "We must always remember that we are not raising children we are actually raising adults. The lessons they learn now will carry the through the rest of their lives."

Sooooo exactly true. This is my personal parenting philosophy, and stated in my parent handbook. We must make choices when raising children that are LONG term. That is what can be so tough. Sure, it might be EASIER to do things differently, RIGHT NOW. But that will have adverse effects in the future.
And on the original topic; I have never had to resort to biting a child back, luckily. But I do think that sometimes a firmer hand is required when a child is aggresive. They NEED to know that it is not okay, it hurts and will not be tolerated.

[carla]

so by biting a child or spanking for hitting you are teaching it is ok to hurt someone smaller then you. i do not agree with spanking or biting a child back. (my opinion) if a child bites you need to watch for triggers. you can do a ABC chart and watch for triggers and change your environment if that is the problem. for example a child is biting when you are changing diapers that child can be in a highchair or at a table with activities while you are busy with books or a puzzle. in the adult world someone punches you because you took there parking spot(toy) we do not punch back we call for help or get the police involved. children need to learn coping skills and hitting or biting back is not teaching them anything.



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