I like to do the clean up so most of it gets cleaned up and doesn't land on the floor since I am the cook, server, supervisor, toileting/diapers/naptime tuck in crew as well as the janitor. I prefer to clean from the table not the floor. In home daycare we are a one person operation.

Even with hand washing, young kids will put their hands in their mouths while waiting for food. Self serving is actually one of the ways that unnecessary germs are spread as one child after the other handles the utensils. I see no benefit in the toddlers serving themselves when I still have to serve half the group anyways. As with other areas of development why do we insist on pushing children when they will master the task faster and more efficient even without lots of practice if we wait the extra year or two to introduce a task.