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    The Mommy issue - what's in a name?

    Does it bother you if the dck call you mommy?
    I have a bunch who took a while to learn to talk but they knew how to say mommy so they called me mommy. Now they are getting older but they still call me mommy half the time and by my name half the time.
    I correct them some of the time but am not sure how much of an issue I should make of it.
    It is like being at the mall and someone yells mommy and ten women turn around.
    I just respond to it when they say it without thinking about it too much but since some of the kids are nearing 3 and calling me mommy I am not sure if I need to crack down on this.
    Do you let kids call you mommy or do you correct them each time? does it matter?

    It is confusing because they are still young and probably don't mean it literally but sometimes we are out and they call me mommy and I am not sure if other providers expect me to correct them or think I am teaching them to call me that. lol

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    I wouldn't make a big deal about it, but I would correct it as it could upset the mothers to hear their child calling you mommy. I have the same kind of thing with my husband...my kids call him Papa, so all the daycare kids call him papa as well...I think it's cute and since none of them calls their dad papa, there is no confusion...they just think it's his name! However, none of my dck's call me mommy even though my kids do...I do correct it as I don't want to have any upset mothers. I'm not sure how I would feel if I heard my child call his daycare provider mommy.

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    My little ones have all recently started to talk and also all call me Mama! I think they refer to all adult females this way, I think they just think that is our name ha ha! My parents don't mind, they know the children don't think I am their mother. One little guy calls everyone with gray hair Nana too!

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    I would correct, everytime, but that's just me. I am not their mom, so I don't want them to get into the habit of calling me that. Not to mention; I have a 4 yr old daughter who would LOSE it if all the kiddos called me mommy. I don't think the parents would love it, either.
    So; all around, that's a no for me, lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily3 View Post
    My little ones have all recently started to talk and also all call me Mama! I think they refer to all adult females this way, I think they just think that is our name ha ha! My parents don't mind, they know the children don't think I am their mother. One little guy calls everyone with gray hair Nana too!

    Most of my current and past daycare kids called me Mom (the younge ones) my 3 year old never had a problem with it. They don't think of you as there personal Mom but just the Mom who takes care of them. When you have your own child calling you Mom all day that is what they hear. When they are older and able to understand then you correct them. I think its sweet and it shows they feel at home!

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    It was worst when my own kids were little and they just copied them. I sort of felt better letting teh daycare kids call me mom than asking my own kids to call me by my name during daycare hours. The older they get the less they do it. As long as they are using your name some of the time then the issue is starting to go away.

    As some have said kids just assume that all women are moms and all men are dads just as they go thorugh association phases where all 4 legged small animals are dogs and big ones are cows or whichever two they pick.

    When they call you mom you can just say my name is "-------" what would you like. It will come. Evetually start not answering to mom by looking at them when they say mom and say no I am.... but not till child is at least 3-4. Their curiosity about the world they want to share with you is more important than how they get your attention. Don't squash their enthusiasm yet.

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    all my dck's have called me mommy...not a big deal and parents don't care, they told me they are actually comforted by it, because it shows to them that their kids feel comfortable and loved by me. My own kids don't care either, they know I'm their mommy and not theirs.

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    I agree, it's perfectly normal when they are really small, but you can gradually teach them your name. My grandson was the reason I started my daycare so for a while all my little ones were calling me grandma. One of the Moms was picking up her little girl and she called me grandma and the Mom sternly told her my name was NOT grandma. But none of the other Moms ever worried about it if they heard their child say that.

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    All my daycare kids call me by my first name. I don't think any one of them has ever called me mommy. Hmm...I refer to myself in the third person constantly. Do you think that makes a diff?

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    I only say my son's name with mommy "Jacob's mommy" but am always refering to myself in the third person

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