How do I approach this?

[playfelt]

being in denial when there is a blatant issue is one thing but planning on being in denial in the future is well weird.

I wouldn't bring it up per se but whenever it happens be prepared to call her on it. Try to determine if she is jelous of the time you spend with the child, if she feels totally incompetent or - you don't say how old the child is but if you are talking school assume a bit older - Is it possible the child is going home and repeating things you say, questioning the parent by complaining they aren't doing it your way or something along that line.

In the grand scheme of things the parent is right if you look at it from a school standpoint of Mon-Fri in that you have her 4 of 5 days where she either learns or doesn't depending on what you do. Evenings and weekends are down time and the parent is saying she is not wasting "her time" on teaching the child so assume whatever you teach is what the child will know when she goes to school.

[Skysue]

being in denial when there is a blatant issue is one thing but planning on being in denial in the future is well weird.

I wouldn't bring it up per se but whenever it happens be prepared to call her on it. Try to determine if she is jelous of the time you spend with the child, if she feels totally incompetent or - you don't say how old the child is but if you are talking school assume a bit older - Is it possible the child is going home and repeating things you say, questioning the parent by complaining they aren't doing it your way or something along that line.

In the grand scheme of things the parent is right if you look at it from a school standpoint of Mon-Fri in that you have her 4 of 5 days where she either learns or doesn't depending on what you do. Evenings and weekends are down time and the parent is saying she is not wasting "her time" on teaching the child so assume whatever you teach is what the child will know when she goes to school.

So does that also mean any problems our children have while in school we can just blame the teachers? Give me a break! I wish i could use all my evenings and weekends as downtime.