Thank you both for replying.

Here is the situation :

Her mom and dad are 1st time parents (dad does 12hr shifts either nights or days) Mom herself is an ECE in a daycare center , they never have the same schedule . Sometimes she doesn't get picked up until 6:50pm and is dropped off at 8am. On the weekends they don't keep her on schedule for instance this past weekend ....

wake up :6:30 given bottle slept until 8am
up at 8 am and played until 9am
napped until 10am had breakfast
played until noon
napped until 3:30 had lunch
played until 5
napped until 8 and then had dinner ..... and that is how it has been all her mommies mat time (we are friends ...I know never mix business with friendship ) lesson learned

now my routine with my kids and daycare kids
8am arrival we have breakfast
8:45 9:45 we do free play /imagination play (my daughter and the little 1year old have naps from 8:30-9:30)
9:45 10:30 we do snack & clean up from snack
10:30 12:15 music /reading stories and more playtime
12:15- 1:15 we do lunch
1:15-3:15 is rest/nap time for all 5 of the children (2 full hrs for the little ones and 1 hr quiet /rest time for the 3yr olds)and pick up is anywhere from 4:30 -6:30 ...

So how much longer do you think I should give her to settle as it is quite disruptive to the other children they often get upset when she is crying . I do play with the children all the time on the floor and I love giving hugs but for this little monkey it isn't helping her ( i've been in her life since she was 3 months old we had playdates daily while on Maternity leave)