Thanks for the suggestions ladies

As for stuffies she has 3 that stay here and mom brings her sleepy stuffy daily (she is here 3 days a week but never the same 3 days) and she also has a gazzillion soothers lol.

Honestly the schedule she has at home is due to just pure laziness on the parents part (I've said as much to mom but just in nicer words) she agrees but is just so tired after working all week .....

Last week I had taken 1 day off and she went to grandmas for the day and no crying what so ever ... and I've noticed when my 2 full time girls go home at 4:30 and it's just my 2 children she settles down quite a bit but does have a few crying fits here and there (so just not the constant crying)

Again thank you for all the ideas and thoughts , I think I'll give her to mid Feb and if it is still the same i'll give my notice as that would be 7-8 weeks of crying everyday.