I posted something similar about being frustrated with my 4 year old DCG needing me to constantly direct play for her. I also have a 2.5 year old DCB who is the same. In both cases they have very bossy older siblings that definitely direct play for them at home. Someone advised to just let her be, that boredom would win out and she would find her own thing to do. It worked! Well, I should say that she has now become the 'bossy' older sister role for the 2.5 year old...they seem to be happy. Good luck!