Oh, also, when you have freeplay time, what are you doing? As mine are all under 3, I am actually involved in freeplay time if that makes any sense. What I mean is, I am not off doing my own thing while they play. I sit on the floor and monitor closesly what is going on to make sure nobody is going to get hurt, to encourage positive interactions between the kids and stop them when they are interacting badly, etc and also I play games with them at times (they cook me play food, etc. Maybe you could also offer him two choices to help him getting started, for example "would you like to play with the play kitchen or the trucks?" He is obviously a bit overwhelmed by so many choices...it could help to give him some direction while not actually telling him what to do.