Thanks for the reply. But whoa, Nelly. I think that maybe you got the wrong idea here, Cocoon. I am glad to tell my parents details of the day, as I remember having my kids in care and wanted to keep in the know about what went on with them. I feel like I'm made to answer for myself every day. The other parents ask about their kids' days, but it is not from a point of scrutiny. It's friendly and casual.

The part that I am not really enjoying is the frequency and tone of how she asks these questions. Then to be put on the spot about what he ate and be criticised when A) 90% of their lunches are home-made and healthy and B) they have fruits and veggies at every meal is a bit much to take. We can't have organic quinoa, salmon and green beans for lunch every day... the other kids would lynch me! I really can't be expected to tailor menus to the input of 5 different families. Would you?

How would you react in my place? Would you just put up with being cross-examined every day at pick-up? I feel like it will not stop until we come to a resolution. I have tried to come to a fair compromise in offering that if she prefers to control what he is eating that she is welcome to pack his lunch and I'll be glad to serve it, but she refuses.

Back to "nutritionally empty" again tomorrow, I suppose... and the third degree... Politely, of course.

Anyone have any constructive suggestions or feedback? I'm not looking for finger-pointing here or side-taking, but some advice that could help resolve the issue?