WOW ... I admit I would have been livid at the MOTHER if she allowed her child to break a house rule in my home - I would have addressed it right than and there WITH THE MOTHER rather than the child - the child was just doing what she was told by her parent

IME children generally WANT to please their caregivers and behave for us ... when they do not it is because they lack the skills to behave OR they lack the understanding of what is expected of them either because the expectation is not developmentally appropriate or because of the inconsistency of the expectations between various caregivers ... children are naturally impulsive and will forget the 'oh here I cannot do that' on occasion not to misbehave but just because they made a mistake in environment.

When a child is learning to 'write' we do not punish them if they are not up to par - we work with them, encourage them, role model and explain what they need to do etc .... IME managing inappropriate behaviour with children specially as a result of 'in congruent expectations of adults' should really be no different - it is not the child's fault the parent sends them mixed messages and we want to help them develop the skills needed without damaging the relationship with the 'parent' so to speak

Don't get me wrong - I would definitely have 'reinforced' the rules at my house with the child the next day as well but would have come at it with the 'I know the rules are different at home and that is OK but we need to remember that at MY house I have many children and young babies and it is important to keep my floors clean to keep them SAFE ... if mommy forgets next time you can be my big helper and help remind mommy that at Mama Mia's house we need to take our shoes off to keep the babies safe' .... that way the child does not feel the parent is allowing them to do something 'wrong' the parent just did not know the rules at your house, it gives them the POWER to do the right thing next time without offending the mother and does not damage their trust in their parent but rather teaches them that the 'rules' are different between home and other places and that is 'ok' I just need to work harder to 'remember' that and to help teach my family the rules at daycare

I find that one of the biggest challenge in this business is not the CHILDREN but rather having to work with clients who do not SHARE our values or beliefs around child rearing and therefore make our job that much harder because the children than 'struggle' to balance between home and care .... I had to navigate that for years in centre care now that I work from home if you do not share my core values than 'next' during the interview stage and if you are not working WITH me once you are in care than NEXT as well .... life is just way too short to have to deal with the stress of 'parenting' not only the children but the parents as well