Lord give me the strength to terminate

[Spixie33]

Oh I totally chickened out. Both parents arrived at pick up time and I thought it was maybe a sign they would tell me the news that they were taking him out of my daycare and they wanted to tag team the bad news.....but nope - just 2 happy parents wanting to chat and pick up their son.
At this rate he may be a teen before I find my nerve.

@KingstonMom --I think you are right and part of the reason they are so cheery and nice to me is because they probably are worried that I will bail on them. It is a tough age to find daycare for and also for their part time schedule which can fluctuate

[Momof4]

Ah Spixie, it sounds like you have tried everything and have let the parents know that they should be doing more to get their child under control. You have no reason to feel guilty at all because you've tried everything and agonized over this decision. I now agree with the other ladies after hearing all of this and think that you should get it over with and do it quickly.

You definitely deserve to be happy and stress free with co-operative families and children in your life daily. Most of us have had to terminate for one reason or another and it is a stomach churning event but then once it's done and you realize you are happy you just breathe a sigh of relief every morning when getting ready to start the day.

[Spixie33]

Waiting to hear it's done...I'd like to have a glass of celebratory wine on your behalf....

I'm totally going to need hubby to make me a daiquiri tonight. lol A consolation one

[mom-in-alberta]

I think playfelt hit it right when she suggested writing up a specific list of "we expect THIS behaviour, not THIS and give some examples of what will no longer be tolerated". Give them a chance to enforce these same rules at home. Chances are, they pretty much let him run amok at home?
If by a specific timeline, he has not shown any improvement, I would say goodbye. And make sure they know what that time period is. Then stick to it. Good luck!!!!!!!

[Inspired by Reggio]

I think playfelt hit it right when she suggested writing up a specific list of "we expect THIS behaviour, not THIS and give some examples of what will no longer be tolerated". Give them a chance to enforce these same rules at home. Chances are, they pretty much let him run amok at home?
If by a specific timeline, he has not shown any improvement, I would say goodbye. And make sure they know what that time period is. Then stick to it. Good luck!!!!!!!

I agree - seeing a goal 'in writing' lends to the significance of your feelings towards it needing to be met by others.

ETA also writing it up is cathartic for you and will help give that backbone to hand it over and get the conversation going - you can still 'talk' to them and make it personal but the written document helps to keep you on track and act as a catalysis to give you strength to speak up and address this issue.