Lord give me the strength to terminate

[Spixie33]

I am so bad at confrontation and giving bad news. Seriously - the worst. I will avoid it at all costs.

I have fantastic daycare families but I am at the end of my rope with one of the little ones.

The fact that the parents are great and I have such a close knit group of parents where they all know the kids' names, schedules, and send little treats for the other kids makes it even harder to terminate someone. I know the parents will notice that "Bobby" is missing and ask me what happened and I will have to tell them at some point.

"Bobby" has been with me over a year and is now 3 years old. The problem with "Bobby" is that he is soooooooooooooooooo energetic and needs so much attention and constant supervision that it drains me out and makes me stressed with the other kids.

"Bobby" is actually a sweet kid and very happy,go lucky but has next to none listening skills and is often disruptive to the whole group because I have to correct so much of what he does. If I get angry at him or cross then he is whiney or cries and is inconsolable because he cannot take criticism or someone showing negative emotion towards him.

He is an only child and has obviously been spoiled by his very nice parents. At this point of age and after being in my home for over a year - he should know the rules and expectations but he still consistently acts like he is kind of the castle i.e jumping on the couch, driving monster trucks and other cars along the painted walls, banging toys to the point where they break no matter how many times i show him we can crash cars gently or with less extreme force, or crashing dump trucks into the wall and baseboards thereby causing scratches/dents.

I desperately want to tell his parents that I just don't see this is working and that I am not the right provider for him...but I am so scared because they are so nice and I know they will be shocked. They know their child is not perfect but I think it will still be a surprise to them. The other issue that I can't even chicken out and give them a letter because we have such a good working relationship and talk often at pick up etc so giving a letter would be too cold.

I just need the strength to do it. It will be a little tight without the income but i can just imagine that my days would be so much calmer. I wish I had a twin who could do the conversation for me while I hide around a corner somewhere.

I wish I had the strength to nip this in the bud and just do it....and I wish I knew how to go about how to explain his sudden absence if I do get the nerve to do it