Lord give me the strength to terminate

[Spixie33]

I say the parents will be shocked because we do have a good relationship. The mom has said that she herself has a trying time taking him to anywhere or playgroups and that she is often embarrassed because "Bobby" is the only one who is acting up or running all over other people's house and not listening. I don't think they will be shocked in terms of finding out that I have a hard time with him or that he is not behaving but I think that they believe I am okay with it and will persevere. I do hate giving up and letting them down.

I have made comments that 'it was a rough day" etc to them at pick up a few times and told them some things so they know he is not being the perfect angel once the door closes but I think that they trust that I will hang in there since we are all on good terms. I am just not sure I can.
Even my hubby has told me to terminate this one because he sees him a few min in the morning and at night and is like 'why do you want a child like that here?'

I will probably chicken out and drag this out another few weeks but i can't imagine living like this until he goes to JK. That is over a year away and he seems to get worse instead of better.

Sure you expect 12 month olds, 18 month olds to be tough but with age everyone gets the rules and routine and makes progress towards independence....but not this little guy

If only the parents weren't such likeable people

[gcj]

yeah, the likable parents is tough. I've never had that. Good parents have always meant good kids....and vice versa
I've always said that the parents matter more, but I guess your case proves me wrong. Tough.

[Skysue]

I say the parents will be shocked because we do have a good relationship. The mom has said that she herself has a trying time taking him to anywhere or playgroups and that she is often embarrassed because "Bobby" is the only one who is acting up or running all over other people's house and not listening. I don't think they will be shocked in terms of finding out that I have a hard time with him or that he is not behaving but I think that they believe I am okay with it and will persevere. I do hate giving up and letting them down.

I have made comments that 'it was a rough day" etc to them at pick up a few times and told them some things so they know he is not being the perfect angel once the door closes but I think that they trust that I will hang in there since we are all on good terms. I am just not sure I can.
Even my hubby has told me to terminate this one because he sees him a few min in the morning and at night and is like 'why do you want a child like that here?'

I will probably chicken out and drag this out another few weeks but i can't imagine living like this until he goes to JK. That is over a year away and he seems to get worse instead of better.

Sure you expect 12 month olds, 18 month olds to be tough but with age everyone gets the rules and routine and makes progress towards independence....but not this little guy

If only the parents weren't such likeable people

I had this exact same situation last year and my best advice was to send their son to Montessori school. I think the excessive energy level is due to extreme intelligence and they are simply board.

The almost 3 year old in my case is excelling in Montessori school and his behavior has tamed right down due to getting the constant stimulation he needs. The best thing you can do for that child is to get him in an environment that he will thrive in.

You owe it to yourself to be straightforward with his parents. Trust me do it now and you will feel soooo much better.

Good luck!