Lord give me the strength to terminate

[Momof4]

What to you do to discipline him? Have you tried to discipline him in the past? Since he's been at your house for over a year and is 3 years old now he knows he can get away with these things. It's never too late though.

If I were you I would sit down with the parents as a group and discuss behaviour and consequences at home and at daycare and make sure that you are all on the same page. Come up with a plan to improve this little boy's behaviour and consistency is the magic word.

Children learn from day 1 in my daycare exactly what is acceptable or not and I use a time out system. I have really well behaved children here who know exactly what I expect but I'm happy and they are happy and we always have fun together. Isn't that what you are looking for? Stressfree happy days?

[Spixie33]

What to you do to discipline him? Have you tried to discipline him in the past? Since he's been at your house for over a year and is 3 years old now he knows he can get away with these things. It's never too late though.

If I were you I would sit down with the parents as a group and discuss behaviour and consequences at home and at daycare and make sure that you are all on the same page. Come up with a plan to improve this little boy's behaviour and consistency is the magic word.

Children learn from day 1 in my daycare exactly what is acceptable or not and I use a time out system. I have really well behaved children here who know exactly what I expect but I'm happy and they are happy and we always have fun together. Isn't that what you are looking for? Stressfree happy days?

Like I mentioned.....I do timeouts. I base timeouts on the child's age. So he gets 3 minutes. During time out he cries to the point where he can barely breathe and then after when I talk to him about the time out he can barely get a word out because he is distraught over the consequence. It does not matter how many time outs he has because he goes back to not listening and I do not have only him to worry about. I have other little ones who need me too and he already monopolizes large chunks of my time.

all the other kids get the rules and follow them and they respond well to time outs. But not every kid is the same. The other kids know the rules so well that they will remind this boy of the rules when they see him breaking them.

Obviously there is discipline as well as fun in our days. I have also tried giving him extra time, lots of cuddles and on the other hand I have been firm, stern, and cross with him. Neither method seems to work. Even the parents say they have a tough time with him and that they are embarrassed at times and they are having issues when they are one on one with him....I don't have the luxury of spending my whole day 1 on 1 with him.

One of the other things that really bothers me is that when we go to early Years or outings he is so over the top excited that he climbs tables, knocks over other kids etc to the point where the ECEs in the classroom are looking stunned. They have also tried to talk to him and discipline him when he comes and even to them it is in one ear and out the other. It has gone to the point where I cannot take the group to Playgroup if he is here and it is a treat that the rest of the kids get to go when he is sick or absent.

anyways....personall y I feel like he is holding us back at times and is just a lot to manage and I do not have the ability to make up for the lack of firmness at home while he is here only a few days a week

Believe me I don't WANT to terminate and have agonized over it but there are days where I am fighting back tears by nap time (like today) because I just feel like I have no where left to turn with this child. He can be very sweet when I am one on one for a puzzle or book or game with him but overall he can be a huge disruption to things