I had a child like this who I had to terminate. All the other kids follow my rules and although they act out here and there, they are basically well-behaved and happy. This one child who was not even 2 yet, was taking all of my time and energy and near the end was spending more time in time-out than not because every time I took her out she would hit, kick, pull hari, scream at the other kids. And I so feel your pain about outings...I also got to the point of avoiding outings with this child as she would cry and cling to me the entire time and draw crowds of people wondering what was wrong with the poor little thing (in other words, what was I doing to her?). I kept her 9 months because I loved her parents...but then things started to go downhill with the parents too as they grew tired of hearing about her daily behavioural issues and got frustrated. After I terminated her, my life was so peaceful and continues to be...I even have one more child than before, but my days are calm, orderly, and happy now. Do what you have to do for your own sanity...you won't regret it!