Quote Originally Posted by Spixie33 View Post
Reggie....and others.....

The parents do know he misbehaves here. I don't tell them we had a happy, perfect day....although some days are good and better than others.

I think you are getting confused by what I wrote. I said the parents would be shocked NOT because they think there aren't problems but because they think it is fine and I am okay putting up with it. I think the parents feel that our relationship is friendly to the point where I would never terminate them no matter what. That is what I meant by them being shocked.

I have told them on many pick ups that we have had a rough day and told them what happened or they witness him trying to drive cars along the paint in the front hallway. They have witnessed him wrecking one of our christmas decorations but they just said "oh sorry". I think...personally.. .that some parents who have a child like this think it is just normal kid behaviour. He is their first and he was a 'miracle' child for them after they tried hard to conceive so they have let him get away with things and they don't know that other kids don't behave like this.

The parents are great in terms of adults. very sociable, friendly, positive people who are always nice to the other kids and families, follow my contract etc. But they are not the most disciplined people in terms of being strict with their child or drawing a line when he misbehaves.

This is a PT child so he is not with me the majority of time which makes it even harder.

Thanks to those who gave helpful advice but really my main concern was 1-finding the nerve to tell these parents who I am on great terms with and 2-how to handle the issue with the other daycare parents when they notice that we have lost someone from our tight-knit group

I have exhausted all the communication, give daily communication sheets on our day, talk to the parents at pickup and have them tell me about issues they have with him as well so communication is not the issue. Saying that communication is lacking or a partnership with the parents is honestly not very helpful, sorry. I can't even fathom how we could communicate better because we really do talk a lot at drop off/pick up, on the sheets, via email, etc. It does not change anything.

Also...for those who said to do more punishment...I do have consequences but again it leads to a bad bunch of drops offs for all involved because every time he has a bad day full of reprimands and corrections he will not want to come the next time and cling to his parents for dear life because he is scared that he will once again get in trouble or time out etc. Having drop offs where the parents have to spend 20 minutes convincing him to stay and untangling their bodies from his clinging death grip are also not pleasant and waste my time because I have other kids to worry about and other activities to do

And it is not that I want to terminate based on the last week or the last month -- it has been many many many months where I keep telling myself it is just a stage and try different techniques but nothing seems to improve even as he gets older.
So, Spixie, you know what you WANT to do and what you NEED to do. Just do it. It's like ripping off a BandAid. You're convincing everyone of why you should. So......why aren't you?
As for the other parents. You don't owe them anything more than "it wasn't working out" or "it's in the best interest of the others.." That's the least of your concerns.
So, I really hope you end this. For you, for your family, for the other dcks and even for the family of this boy!
I say DO IT!