Because as much as we hate to say it, WE WANT TO BE ALONE and if that makes me selfish then I guess I am oh well, I had my child knowing what my commitments were, but I have no problem saying that my husband deserves just as much attention if not more--because in the end if his parents are happy so is he.....

And playfelt is right if the caregiver wanted pay, then we took him....if she didn't mind a no pay day then we didn't.