I've posted about this before...

I just opened my dayhome this month. My first DCG is 12 months (mature 12 months). She is having a terrible time adjusting. She gets dropped off at 6:15 so wakes up at 5:45 every morning. She was used to waking up at 8. So I think this is part of her behaviour problems.

SO these are the problems I'm having, please tell me if this is all normal:

Hits, bites, stands on toys, climbs, chews EVERYTHING, sticks her fingers so far down her throat she vomits, etc. The more I redirect or tell her to stop the more she misbehaves. For example while on our walks she drags her hands in the snow, now I know this is normal but her arms fold back and I'm afraid of her hurting herself because she almost tips over. Once she even did a faceplant in the snow because of it. I bring her arm and as soon as I let go of her arm, it's back out. I ask again and again but immediately her arm is out. She undertands what I am asking...

I honestly cannot look away for a second. Most of this behaviour occurs when I am prepping breakfast or lunch. Basically if I'm not paying enough attention to her. She is an only child. The whole family lived with the grandparents until recently so I know she's having a hard time being in a multi-child environment where she is not the center of attention anymore.

During storytime, circle time, etc I cannot finish a song/book ever because I am constantly "No A**, please don't do that". It is so disruptive.

This morning she took the VTECH learning laptop and smashed my 10 month old in the head while I was prepping breakfast. My kitchen and living room are open so my eyes are always on her (even when trying to cut fruit, I seriously can't turn away from her).

She has been sick for a week and a half out of the 2 and half weeks she's been with me.

I know that this is hard for her... I am trying to remember that every time she hits or bites my children. BUT OMG it is so hard!!! Right now it is only my children, what happens when I have more DCK's? The parents are going to be so mad to see bite marks and bruises everyday on their children.

I have been doing my best to redirect, teach her soft, gentle. None of that is working. I tried using the fisher price chair to strap her in when she misbehaves. Yesterday I finally brought out the playpen and place her in there for a time out for a minute.

I've had to start segregating the kids while I'm in the kitchen, by a gate.

I'm not sure what else to do. Mom says she isn't this way at home.

Are they all like this? Is this normal? Will it get better? My kids are NOT aggressive at all. This is new to me!

Thanks
S